Ok, so again, I'm going to state it, I'm not in any way a pick up artist, nor do I really want to be, my main aim from learning about this subculture and all of the things to come with it is to gain such a level of confidence that every aspect of my life will benefit from it, much like I did last night.
So I'm not exactly inconfident (word?), I can quite happily talk to strangers, especially after a couple of drinks (good bye inhibitions) and this is just what I did last night, let me give you the backdrop:
My birthday is coming up on Thursday, and it was one of my friends Birthday's today, we're both at University in the UK down near Oxford way and we live in a very sociable block, probably the most social you will ever see in a university residence.
As both of our birthdays are coming up and we all usually go out on Monday's anyway, I decided to arrange a guestlist to a club called Lava Ignite, free entry for Alex and Me, discounted entry for our guests, and one free bottle of champagne each and we get to jump the queue, can't start the night off in a better way right? So far, the night was young the night was good, we were all tipsy and it was fantastic... I'm not going to lie, it only got better.
So we get into the club after marking our territory in there (bare in mind that when I say we... I mean the 21 people or so from my block, like I said we're a socialist group), I make my way over to the bar where I am soon joined by three girls all dressed up with wands and outfits and stuff, the first thing that comes to mind is, "this is choice", I mean, not to mention did I have at least two conversation starters about me alone (the fact we were celebrating my birthday, but also that I was wearing a little shiny sparkly red bow around my neck (peacock it right, wear something that stands out), but these girls in themselves and the way they were dressed were conversation starters alone... phase-shift, an instant smile spread across my face, my posture straightened and I felt a lot more confident and alpha, 1 second... 2 seconds... and the conversation was started.
The best thing about this approach, is that it wasn't direct and it wasn't from behind, I hadn't really identified my target at this point, but I thought that there's no harm and nothing to lose in chatting up any one of these girls, so I start with the one closest, not ignoring the other two, but still not speaking to them as much, my target; to make my way to the girl furthest away and hold a conversation with her while keeping the guys they were with feeling like I was harmless and not minding the conversation. So I start talking to this girl to the left of me who has these fairy wings on, conversation is going for a couple of minutes with this girl until I ask why they are all dressed up... they were celebrating their friends birthday who just happened to be the one furthest away, perfect.
Instantly I mentioned that it was my birthday as well and was like wow that's amazing, now the girl to the left of me brings the others into the conversation, especially the one furthest away who's birthday it is, we talk over the bar for about half a minute and then I make my move, "sorry, it's quite loud I can't quite hear what your saying, one second", leave the girl closest to me behind, skip the girl in the middle, bam target achieved, now to get friendly. We started talking about a couple of things and then said "I can't believe it's your birthday as well, I think that deserves a hug", no rejection, positive IOI with a little smile
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Anyway, so we carry on talking for a little bit and then something amazing happened, I mean truly amazing (I know what you're probably thinking, but you'd be wrong), being completely new to the game and this being my first night out with what I now know, I wasn't expecting what came next... another PUA!! I didn't even see him coming, this guy maneuvered in between me and my target, facing towards me and blocked me, literally put his arm (non threateningly across my stomach), he continued the conversation with one of the girls (didn't even notice which one to be honest), this block was so good, so efficient that the dynamics of the situation barely changed, my target probably didn't realize we weren't talking any more, and I was hanging dry with another PUA in my place, totally unoffended and non-challant about the entire thing, it was amazing... at any other time had I not known what I know now, I would have just thought he was the girls boyfriend and was telling me to back off, to which I would have gladly agreed, but knowing what I do, I stood there, and within a split second had analyzed this guy, tall, fairly good looking, peacocking (wearing bright pink shirt to attract attention and possibly show a feminine side while still being masculine), this guy was instantly tagged by me as a PUA. I left, well... not left so much as walked to a wall near the DJ and waited for this guy to finish the set.
Ok done, he's walking this way, I approach him indirectly so he doesn't think he's being attacked, I flag him down, put my hand on his shoulder and whispered, "you're a PUA", it wasn't a question, the instant he heard those words there was instant recognition, he pulled away, shocked, laughed and just nodded, tonight would be the night known for the night where I had my first bump in with a PUA on the game. Believe it or not, as shocked as we both were about this, and the fact that he blocked me, there were absolutely no hard feelings, I congratulated him on an amazingly smooth block, something which he'd obviously been practicing, and we walked to the edge of the dance floor, exchanged details (phone numbers, e-mails, facebooks, etc...) so we could sarge together or wing, or maybe even have a bit of friendly competition in the future. This is where it got fun, with everyone in the club watching, there was a breakdance dance out, both of us; confidence showing; everyone watching, got on that dancefloor and showed our alpha, two peacocks putting on a show, every girl in that club would know our faces by the end of that routine.
After the dance off we break and head in our own direction, me back to my original group, him I assume, back to his game. When I got back to my group, I was sitting around for a while my mate pulled me away as we both got presented by the DJ our free bottles of champagne, announced to the whole club, again this is bonus points in all the girls books around the place, after a little show of appreciation, I went back to my group... the PUA was back, he'd noticed me or at least the girls I was sitting with and instantly headed over, using me as his starting point for conversation he maneuvered himself a seat near one of the more attractive girls in the group, and believe it or not, she actually knew him (but not as a player). She really couldn't believe that we knew each other, infact, she questioned about it ferverently, I noticed at this point that the other PUA wasn't very quick on his feet with conversation, yeah he may be a killer at his opening and transition that pretty effectively, but when it came to conversation, I think this was his sticking-point. Anyway, being friendly with this girl already and being quick with words I looked her in the eye, smiled, took a pull from my bottle and paused for effect just to say "we're studying the same thing, not at university; but we have the same interests", it was quick, smooth, not to big myself up, but it was seamless, my new PUA friend was impressed, he looked a little shocked at me for a second I noticed out the corner of my eye (still maintaining eye contact with the girl and my smile) and just saw him smile, nod, laugh and agree just has he had when I had caught him out, 10 minutes later he was up and gone, cleared a number-close with the girl and was off again to continue his game.
At this point I moved up closer to this girl and was talking to her more about how I knew that guy, etc, etc, and believe it or not, but she actually already knows a little about pick up artists, she was smart, she didn't give him her real number, but as I talked to her about their conversations, I realized even with her knowledge, she was easily lead. I asked her one at a time if he had done any of the few things I listed, he had... he'd done them all, and I said to her at the end, "and now I bet you want to go and talk to him more don't you", shocked as she was for being so easily manipulated so just embarrassingly for her admitted "yes".
This is where my real game started. My new goal: Play the player, play the girl.
This was going to be fun, my new goal consisted of making the PUA think he could get with this girl if he kept trying different angles, meanwhile letting her know exactly how he will approach (I know, bad for PUA's everywhere right... except, I'm not a PUA), by defending her for the first part of the night by letting her know how he was going to approach and drop lines I'd gained a much higher level of trust with her, ultimately she was my target, and by approaching in a way no other PUA does to start with, it was a sure thing.
Throughout the night, he would approach, she would reject him (making him try more, I love the psychology behind that one), and each time, she would come to me for a breakdown of his approach and ask me what certain things meant. I wasn't actually monitoring this situation, I was off enjoying my birthday celebration, as you do, and she would come up to me and explain how he approached, what body language she noticed, what he attempted (cheek kisses, dancing etc), and quite happily, I was giving her all the answers she wanted, until... it was time to turn my game back to the original PUA style. She has trust, she keeps coming back to me and she wants attention from me, time to cut her off, stop explaining, stop talking to her, slowly and surely completely ignoring her... here's how it went.
After the first few times of explaining things to her, she came up to me while I was standing talking to some other people and started asking me about his approach, to which I just laughed a little bit, looked down at the floor while giggling (making her feel insecure about something she may have done or said or missed in her interpretation) and I told her that I wouldn't tell her, she asked me to explain to which I pretended I didn't really hear, because I was still (at least pretending) to join in on the groups conversation, to which she grabbed me on the shoulder pulled me closer and said in my ear quite clearly that I have to tell her... I knocked her off this time by saying I'd be over in a bit to explain it. I took about 25 minutes to go over I think, I moved around to the outside of the couch, at least a good 5 metres away from her and started talking to my friends on this side (this was a big couch that could easily fit us all in), after a break in the conversation, I looked up and noticed she was looking at me, (most likely waiting for eye contact), I smiled, raised my drink and she started siddling over towards where I was standing, by which point two girls had brought me some tequila shots to drink with them, this was perfect, an amazing opportunity to acknowledge her and then ignore her for at least abother 15 minutes while I drank, talked and took photo's with these girls, eventually they left and I turned around again to a still expectant girl... take away what they want and they want it more, she didn't even notice I was playing a different version of the same game as the other PUA.
So we started talking finally, and again she got around to asking me what his latest approach meant (believe it or not, but I think he tried another 1 or 2 different approached since I'd been away, either he moves fast or I was gone longer than I thought
). This is where my taking away from her increased even more, I'd taken away her explanations to start with, said I talk to her about them later, taken away her ability to talk to me by engaging the other people, and when I finally did engage her to talk, I simply said, "I'm having a really good time at the moment, I'm going to go and dance", she kneeled up on the sofa and reached across to grab my shirt by the elbow, I stopped, looked at her in the eyes, and she said "please tell me now", "no, no, not now, I'll have a few conversations with you later about it all" and carried walking off, at which she jumped over the sofa and grabbed me with both arms after stepping in my way, again looking me intensely in the eyes and said "You will tell me now"... women don't get what they want when they demand it from me, I gave her a cheeky smile, turned her around as if to dance, her still holding onto both my arms (this maneuver she would later realize, put me closer to the dance floor and her out of my way), smile still spread across my face, maintaining good eye contact, I walked backwards slightly sliding her grip to my hands, flicked my hands up when they slid over the underside of her palms, shrugged and stated "no... I'm not, I'm going to dance", spun around on one heel and walked confidently onto the dancefloor, initiating conversation with a couple of groups of people before I got to the ones I knew. She was on my heels, still begging for it, still begging to talk to me, to talk about the situation, I danced, I smiled, I laughed, I turned around. Time to put her on complete ignore. She gave up at this point - for now.
We found each other again later on in the night and she told me he'd tried a couple more things, even kissed her on the cheek, again I said we'd talk about it later and suggested that we go to another room upstairs, she was with another of the guys from our block at this point and they both agreed. We got to the stairs and me being a gentleman, let them go up first, gentleman aside, this was a plan, there are two ways to get to the same point upstairs... I took the alternative. Like a magician, I appear behind them a moment later and step into their field of view, said "who are you waiting for?" with a cheeky smile and a returned look of confusion and without waiting for their response walked off smiling, again leader of the pack, I'm not sure at which point but some how I managed to lose the other guy from our block.
Now I can't remember much about what happened after this point, but what I do remember is that the player got played and had admitted defeat (for now), but moved on to another girl in the R&B room, I saw him kiss closing that deal - nice
, and in the end, the girl got played, eventually she got validation from me, I never gave her the conversation and explanation that night, but when I was talking to the PUA from last night on MSN today, lets just say that the girl told him I should say hi.
and that was the story of my first night out with all the additional confidence I have gained.
Summary:
My first night out;
I meet a PUA;
I get intercepted by a PUA;
I make friends with a PUA;
PUA hits on a girl;
I play them both;
PUA moves on;
I get the girl and a new wing man and maybe a bit of competition.
I later learned that he's only been playing the game since September, quite a bit longer than me, but he was amazed at my game after just one night. We talked about the histories of our PUA, our goals, our usual club nights and stuff, and also got linked to another couple of PUA's he usually goes sarging with, so all in all, an amazing night.
Today, I spent pretty much the whole thing analyzing the night, every second with a smile on my face, I'll know now in future to look for potential ways for other players or AMOG's to block me when I'm doing a set, and in future, will learn how to block other players as smoothly as he had.
So that was my night, I loved it, I loved everything about it... how about you?
CHAT
