alright so here's another "how should i play this?" type of question..

Basically theres this girl who lives a few hours away (we've been friends for a long time) who i hooked up with about a month ago but failed to escalate past make-out because i just didn't have the kahonehs at the time, telling myself that it was a complicated situation..we did have a few long talks about some deep stuff tho and i got the impression she was very interested (she planned out a romantic date thing). of course i could be wrong cause she's the queen of mixed signals.. anyways so I'm trying to keep her interested till i get to see her again which is in another month which is going to be tough to do now that her buying temp. has probly dropped..

so we were keeping in touch on facebook for a little while and then she sent me a message saying i shouldn't talk to her unless i want to be seen talking with a nerd? anyways i told her that she's crazy, i miss her (i'm gonna get some flack for that one), and that if she doesnt want to talk to me she doesnt have to. and she hasnt. it's been over a week and it seems like she's taken that last part as a kind of shit test and is trying to pass it? a couple days ago she changed her facebook status to no longer single. of course this happens when u simply remove your relationship status. now i'm wondering whether shes doing this to see if i react or if she's actually found another guy. and the major question is how should i react? should i ask her straight up about it in as non-AFC way possible such as simply "___is no longer listed as single??". should i maybe call her just to shoot the shit?

advice guys?

i say keep talking to her like normal. dont bring up the relationship thing, if she is really concern about it she will bring it up herself and tell you. Dont be to needy, message her once in a while. dont give her the option to choose to talk to you or not. Just say " hey, i like talking to you. its fun" Be the fun guy in her life. make her wanna seek you out.

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thanx man. that was good advice. unfortunately she sent me a message the other night saying she's met a guy and now has a relationship with him. she assured me that if i was there it would be different and dating this guy is the only way she could stop thinking about me. this is probably all bullshit..so i sent her a message filled with just as much bullshit, saying she shouldn't feel guilty and should do whatever she can to be happy. im wondering if i should cut her out of my life (or at least theaten to) , try to get her to cheat or break up with her bf, or just be her friend.

I'd say ignore it and be just friends now. She's with a guy, and it seems like you guys arent close enough to see eachother that often anyway. Proximety here makes it very difficult for anything to happen. I'm sure she does have feelings for you, but at the same time it difficult for that to work, so she is going with something easier.

I'd say don't continue to smother her when she has a guy, but just be friends with her (if you can handle that), and continue to be fun.

no threats and dont try to make her feel guilty.Just be her friend and if you cant do that cut her out of your life. Its just gonna make it worst for you. If you really like her just tell her "hey i like you alot and seeing you with another guy doesnt sit right with me, i'm happy for you but i cant stay friends with you" be sincer about it she'll remember it in the long run. By then you'll find another HB. I been in your position before and just being mad at her or mad at all doesnt help anyone. Take the high road and make your desecion

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that was pretty much the advice that I was hoping for. I just didn't want it to be an AFC move to stay friends with her and getting nothing in return. I also wasn't sure if I should freeze her out of my life for a while or start a relationship myself.. anyways thanx for the advice guys