Hi all,

I am seriously looking into my body language. I know the basics are based around confidence but what are some things that I can consciously do to the point where they become second nature?

For example, if you're in public, with no intention of picking up how do you sit when you look confident?

Like I've read that touching your face shows insecurity, well I touch my face all the time. And there are certain ways of sitting that show confidence.

Any thoughts? And are there are any subliminal messages you can train your self with to change body language?

Leaning back, assuming there is a back part of where your sitting. As well as having open posture. It also helps to look/be happy and be at ease (meaning being comfortable where you are).

smiling=very important. also a major turning point for me was when i started getting big again and i started taking the "physical dominance stance" naturally (shoulders squared, looking down at her into her eyes). if you make sure you use these 2 together it works pretty nicelly

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These are some things that ive been testing in the feild and they all seem to be working for me. A few are mentioned in the Mystery Method and a few ive come across on my own and they all seem to hold true.

Dont turn your head too fast when someone wants your attention.
Always make your movments like you have a reason for doing them. (by this i mean if you walk across the room look like you have somwhere to go but casually your the prize!)
If people are sitting down try to get a seat even if other people your talking to are standing.
Dont hold your drink like your hiding behind it
If your in a set and it moves dont be the one in the back following,even if you didnt suggest the move. Always be towards the front of the group.
Sit with your back to the wall and make people talking to you face you with their backs to the room making them more vulnerable than you are.
BE The SOCIAL CENTER of th room.
Good Luck Bro

Correction is the easiest way I have found to modify behavior. So if you notice you are slouching or are bent over correct it, once you have been doing this for a week or so it becomes second nature.
I am currently doing it with my breathing, docs orders I have to breathe from my lower chest, also helps with voice tonality which is a cheeky bonus.

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My buddy had this same problem. He entered the room and you got the impression of an egotistical asshole. He's an awesome guy and in reality he's very personable when you get to know him but no know knew this until he changed. His biggest thing is holding his head up when he walks into the room. Smile. Making eye contact with people. Just like aceofspades said be the social center. When you think this way you act this way

Slow everything you do down by 20%.
Drop the smile after the approach and smile only when you want to show appreciation. If you keep smiling all the time she can not calibrate your mood or anything.
Take up a lot of space. Keep your hands away from the protection signals (crossed, in front of face etc). Do NOT touch your face at all.
Talk slowly, strong voice...

Lots of good advice here. My tip would be to do a google search. There is a lot of free information out there. Once you get the basics FORGET it and let it go into second nature. If it's too conscious then it will appear fake and forced. It will take you at least a few months to learn it all and then another few to forget it and chuck it back into your subconscious. The good news is that once you learn it you'll never forget it and you can use it in all facets of life. Good luck on your journey, ask if you have an specific questions.

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2 of my best friends said I looked "pissed off at the world" when they met me (separate instances). What the hell could that mean I'm doing wrong? I'm a pretty happy guy...

That's exactly how my buddy came off when in reality he was pretty socialable once you get to know him. What his problem was is he slouched his shoulders a little and walked in kind of looking at the floor and wouldn't put a smile on his face.

He just changed the way he walked in the room and it worked wonders for him. He put his shoulders back walked with his head up, and smiled when he walked in the room. He's much more approachable now and girls are now not giving him a bad judgement before he even talks to them.

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I like to slow down everything, when I walk I look like a big bag of ego stuffed together... but seriously, hold strong eye contact, when I walk, everyone looks at me. Just move smoothly, feel comfortable(its pretty tough, gotta warn you to this) when you realize a girl looking at you, give her a smile, if you are not interested just hold it for a few secs, don't try to impress anyone.

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smiling for no reason is still awkward for me.

haha yeah I know what you mean I don't walk in a room with a full on cheesy ass grin but I'll smile at the first person I make eye contact with. That's made the difference with me

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There's your problem! Just give 'er. Emotions are contagious. No one wants to be around someone that is pissed off at the world. It only rubs off on them and can be a real downer. When you smile other people assume that good things happen to you and thereby their association with you will lead to good things for them. The reverse association is true for those who seem depressed or sad. There is plenty of research that supports this. Smile away and those around you will too!

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He's not telling you to just sit there and smile hysterically like a madman. Just visualize something happy in your mind and you'll be fine. If you have a happy personality, it will spread to those around you.