So here's my basic problem(s), I am absolutely one of those AFCs, which in itself is not necessarily a problem, however the shyness and oneguy-itis is a problem. Those, which are also coupled with the facts that I give great advice, but suck at receiving it, as well as just being able to go out and take a chance. I can't do it.

I worry about everything. I want everyone to like me, yet I could care less if they do or not. It just seems to me that I'm stuck between a rock and a hardplace, and I need to make a decision and just do it. But how do I internalize that? How do I convince myself to say "Fuck It. Take a goddamn chance, no matter the consequences."?

I know the answer is in my question, but I can't do it. Any words of advice/encouragement?

~Cinema

set yourself up?
Tell all your friends your going to do something and do it
This way you don't have much to fall back onto and would probably do it
Otherwise it'd land up pretty badly but thats besides the point.

Or you could slowly build it up to that level where you feel like taking chances...

You should read "The Ultimate Frame" post by Slie.. see what you can do to internalize it. Because if you've got the attitude of you don't give a shit and you want people to like you, you're set. You just need to be able to apply them at the right time in the situation you're in. If you're not afraid to fail then that's one of the biggest sticking points most people have. Go for it bro

First off...please cut the putdowns on yourself. Your NOT an AFC your a person. As with the other 2....go talk to people. Doesn't matter who- just start making eye contact with people, then progress to a hi.



Hmm...can I do Tough Love? Hell, I will, just stfu. Dude- again your putting yourself down. STOP IT. As with your advice- take your own advice...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWvSdW3rAIM

With that in mind, You CAN do anything you want to. Whats the bottom line of doing something? You DIE. If your living your life in fear...your still dieing, just slowly & unhappily.
Very simple...stop thinking and actually do it. You can always focus on the negative- but remember the link above? NOTHING HAPPENS TILL YOU DO SOMETHING. Right now, your not asking questions- your just looking for validation on what to do.
Stop pussyfooting around. Want some encouragement?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYkG4vhvLpc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zwMtvCMLio

And for a reality check...lets be real- if you acted the same way today as you did a month ago and will from a year from now- will you be happy? Envision it. Are you willingly to fight for your life? (This is WAY past women at this point- this is ABOUT YOU) Are you willingly to fight your your dreams?

Its a question ONLY you can answer- be totally honest with yourself.