I am just curious to know what people think about approaching girls on the dance floor. I'm a sophomore in college and at frat parties there are always those raves in the basement. However, I am always too reluctant just to go up and start grinding with some girl. For some reason I feel that this is strange, but it seems that the etiquette on the dance floor is just to go up to an anonymous girl and just lunge into her. I watch guys do it all the time and there is hardly ever an exchange of words. I think though that if you are actually trying to make something more out of the dance that there should be some sort of initial introduction to see if there is any interest or indicators. The only problem with this is that the music is so loud you can hardly ever hear what is being said. So does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach girls in this situation?

If you're trying to pick up chicks, fuck the dance floor. Going around grinding on random hos does not socially proof you - it just makes you look like you're trying to grab some ass anonymously since you can't get it otherwise. Use the dancefloor as an isolation technique, get her away from her friends by being like "HEY lets go dance!" then walk over to the keg.. where she follows you. Fuck around with some C&F then go into a comfort routine, she won't remember the dance invite.

"The dance floors a trap" -Mystery

I agree with payroll to an extent. Random grinding will get you no where except maybe with a five star whore. However I have found that when if I go out into the middle of the dance floor and start dancing myself girls tend to come over by me. Or while I'm dancing I'll just point to a girl I find attractive and tell her to come dance with me. Eye contact will go along way in the crowded/noisy frat parties.

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idk where you're from exactly. but in the bay area we "thizz dance" which is a dance done by yourself, sometimes with a partner but not usually touching eachother. but basically if im on the floor and some girl tries to gig with me, i do my best to break her legs n it usually works, and ive found that after i get off the floor and im chillin in the backyard or something that girl will usually try and open my set up, sooo long story short you cant exactly start a conversation on the dancefloor but you can certainly show off in an accepted and attractive fashion

Hmm...I've wondered about this too at dance clubs. I think I like the idea of just dancing by myself and letting a girl come to me, or making eye contact and then summoning her to join me. I'm a little shy about dancing by myself but not at all about tearing it up with a lady, so sounds like I should just dump any shyness about dancing by myself and let the ladies come to me, huh?

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i seperate dancing from sarging usually. once a month ill just go and dance and get drunk - letting all sarging go. and just dance with anyone. but if you want to open on the dance floor make sure your peackocked. they will open you. i have this cool led tag thing which i can put a personal message on - and it flashes to everyone. it says HI5!! and girls come up to me with their hands in the air. i usually high 5 it, and hold on, spin them round and theyll dance with me. then i wipe my hand on my trousers for a neg, as if she was dirty . this way when i grab her hand and pull her to the bar it will just be escalating the hand pullin when i span her.

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what you said about not hearing whats said due to the volume - never rely on your voice too much when your dancing. develop ways of negging, DHVing and so on nonverbally.

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I dig the wiping your hand with the high5.. pretty smart. I know the feeling with the frat parties with actually being in one so here's what I do.

-Either go dance, grind, then pull them somewhere quite and say now you've had your fun what's your name.
-Walk up to her and give her the WTF look like she can't dance say here I'll show you how to do it, and dance with her.

Best advice I've got.. It's worked for me and I've always had the chance to get to know them after so something works.