Yesterday when I first met a girl at a party and we shook hands, I held it there intentionally and did not let go, then explained to her than I usually hold the handshake a little longer because it helps to build trust.

It maybe bullshit or I am on to something but she said she liked it so I won some cool points with her.

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I'm not a pickup artist or anything but I have an idea about this situation, let me know what you think:

Situation: You've met a girl and while exchanging names she offers you her hand.

When she offers you her hand, you could look at it, smile and maybe even giggle a little bit, not so much that it's offensive, but enough so that she notices - the kind of laugh, smile and gaze into her eye that says 'are you serious? we're friendlier than that'. This can probably be classed as a neg.

Then using the ideas from bearcock, you could reach towards her hand (as if you are actually going to shake it), but instead grab her by the tips of her fingers lightly as if going to dance, then spin her around while at the same time asking either: 'Why so formal {name}', or as bearcock suggested, 'You need to stop being so formal'.

The spin I would think is a good maneuver, because she would not be expecting it and it would also portray that you're quite exciting (women love dancing and the idea of it).

At the final point of the spin, she should be turning round to a cheeky grin and good eye contact, when turning into this and taking the jokey nature of the situation into hand, she will most likely forget that you're both still holding hands.

What happens next could go so many ways depending on the woman:

1. Best possible outcome, she leans or steps in towards you, a very positive IOI, by this point probably the second or third - you're safe to go in for the kiss, how friendly you want to make it would be your choice, go for the lips, she can only offer you the cheek.

2. She's a bit dazed and won't really know what to do or say, at this point you will need to keep the light SPAM going. Say something funny or go in for the hug like "have a hug instead" with a smile. This is then at least two points of fairly close contact which is a pretty good way to start. You could also do what BamBam suggested at the end of the spin and and go in for the European kiss

3. She's a club foot and falls over whilst spinning - definitely not a good thing, wouldn't know where to go from here, definitely help her up though! haha.

box fresh, awesome idea! i reckon thatll increase attraction and portray confidence right off the start.

i usually get the hand and go and kiss her (south american background.. taught to kiss everyone when first meeting) i reckon it shows a bit more trust and connection, not to mention instant kino lol tbh i reckon its not what you do but how you do it. if you dont even shake hands yet portray alpha and confidence when introducing to opening/attraction.. it wont matter. If you do hand shake or kiss.. it might be an extra bump in attraction n comfort.. practise all types and see how you go

grab her hand and kiss it like you see on movies.
most times girls will like that.

Give them a regular handshake then slowly release the back of their hand and hold onto their fingertips for a few extra seconds.

Look at her and say "That's an interesting handshake. You know they say you can tell a lot about a person based on their handshake."

At this point they become intrigued, want to know what you mean, and will usually ask (IOI) . At this point YOU also become INTERESTING.

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on a slightly related note, have any of you'se seen a video of Badboys PUA handshake? Now im juding by the parody videos on youtube that the general concensus is that it is ridicoulous, but i wonder what people on the forum think..