I've heard somewhere that you act from the way you see your parents.

I've been self-analysing myself and how I interact with people. Anyone who seems more valuable than me as a person, I become too intimidated, or rather shy, when talking to them. Any girl who is bossy, I kinda despise because they remind me of my mom. The domineering type.

My dad is very beta. He even got divorced from my mom not too long ago this year. He's socially ackward, clings to my mom even now, and is chatting with a girl half way around the world and will get married to her very soon. They don't even know each other well enough, he even admitted he wants to marry her because my dad depends on someone to be with. I despise weak people. I'm even ashamed to admit that I use my dad to do me favors and he always accepts.

Anyway, the point is, this is human nature. To behave in a way of cause & consequence from one's upbringing from their parents. Not only from what they say, but more from how they interact with you. Whether they have a secret part of their lives, it only matters what you see before your eyes.

So the only way to get out of this is by maturity, understanding and tolerance through impartiality on how they interact with you up till now. So that we won't have to do the same mistake as Mystery did, from what I've read so far from The Game.

Also, the moral of this post is: You can learn from fools and their mistakes, so you won't do the same thing. And for those who have children, you guys can learn better ways of parenting than modeling the same behaviors as your parents.

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Decisions are based on choices; to do or not to do - there is no try.

Your personality also involves the kind of movies you watch and the kind of websites you visit.

For example if there's an AFC who has never heard about the community they will spend their whole life thinking the way to get a gf is to take her on expensive dates and buy jewellery and then bring her flowers everyday.

Identify the things that are causing you to behave in a certain way and then find substitutes for them

from a freudian angle, my parents have ruined me. my dad who never loved me has never been there. my mum is bossy, hates me, bitches about me to anyone wholl listen and doesnt like me to have a life. i became try hard with women. didnt work. i tried being nice for a while. got me a taste of success but generally doesnt work unless the girl is upset and drunk, and you know how to kiss close. well now im striving to find myself. girls still make me feel awkward. amog guys amog me and i just get left out. but im still trying to find success. if not with women then in life as a whole. just get past it. be strong. message me if it helps man.

your friend,

Shred

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"I learnt my passion in the good old fashoned school of lover boy!"

True, and interesting. My father was a super-dominant, hyper AMOG sort. He beat me up, at first submissive, as I grew older, I, in many ways, became him. Super dominant, high testerone, violent. I ran away young, and had one of the hardest childhoods imaginable in the western world. I've succeeded. But it still 'haunts' me. Because of the constant beatings, etc., I grew up with a very low self esteem.

Now, (am I boasting? yes. But it's all true, no exaggeration), despite having modelled for Kenneth Cole, having a top 1% IQ (146), top 30% for age in height, fitness, etc. I can dominate most other males, and most people I meet respect me. Yet, I can't see it, even if I logically know it. It still surprises me (although it's happened many times before) when a girl says she was checking me out from when I entered the room, or her friend likes me. Still, inside, it means a HUGE deal to me what anyone thinks of me... friends, girls, anyone. And I still have the instinctive assumption that (like my parents) they dissaprove/borderline-dislike me.

Through The Game I learned to mask my feelings very well, and it shows. The more I act like I don't give a fuck what people think, just be myself, the better people like me, and now, finally, I have good self esteem, from inside.

And P.S., you know you're AMOGing is doing pretty well when I had a girl giving IOIs in front of both her boyfriend and ex-boyfriend, and me returning IOIs. One was black, one was a big motherfucker, neither said a word in front of her. A few minutes later the ex comes back with a friend and tells me not to touch her. I said "my bad, didn't know you were in a relationship." She comes in later, having heard what he said, and tells me she can stand the fuck up for herself and gives me a hug... and these guys are 10 years older than me, she is 25 years older.

Ive got to say i admire you guys, people who had rough childhoods and hardships in life and come through to be smart and charismatic people are the strongest in all aspects of life.

I have to agree that parents have a large influence on who you are in life, my father is an extremely intelligent and confident person. He can do absolutely anything when it comes to women, and i believe in transfered to me alot. The only beef i have is that i was often amoged by him, i never knew until last year that this was happening. This is also why he never met any of the women ive dated.

Parents are the biggest influence whether positive or negative, there is no denying that.

p.s. I dont want to sound racist by saying 'one was black.' My point is positive: black dudes usually have a lot of amog characteristics, and a lot of game came from their community. Thus harder to AMOG.

well, i messaged johnny soporno and told the genius about my situation with my mum. she makes me feel depressed a lot because she tries to make me do what she wants and dont want me to have a life. he said, "it might be hard but just tell her she makes you feel bad" simple, but effective. also, i dont think the masking of feelings is right man. you seem to have good game but for the wrong reasons. message rye lee, zac lui, sean messenger or johnny soporno. they will reply even though theyre prety well known and they will tell you whats gone wrong man. inner game is not about feeling better, its about being happy in all aspects of your life. it all spills into itself and if your happy with most aspects of your life your success wil spill into other areas and youll becomemuch happier.

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"I learnt my passion in the good old fashoned school of lover boy!"

Parents have a major influence, they also don't have to if you make the decision to grow up. I still live with my parents- I Love them both- they ain't the ideal parents, but I have a close relationship with both. The point is...they tried their best & I know that, so I can't blame them. It takes alot of maturity to just say, "I forgive you for the past, this is my life though".

In that sense...learn, don't judge though. I'm seeing alot of blame & judgment in the post- that could just be me though. And as Shred stated, tell people your boundaries...they don't know what your feeling or thinking. This implies to everyone- especially with parents though.