so tonight i went to a halloween party, started off slow, had a drink and was like fuck it lets try this stuff out. so i go around meeting girls, going group to group meeting people. eventually i went to a room where everyone was dancing, i get my friend to take pictures of me with a bunch of girls. start dancing with like 3-6 girls at diff times, bunch of pictures taken, lots of grinding taking place. so i pick one main girl im gonna focus on, but im still dancing with other girls, constantly pulling more in, and giving attention to others.
during the dancing shes like do you have facebook? im like yup, we start talking, end up going on my phone and she adds me on the spot
eventually i sit down and start talking to this girl, were going over pictures in the cameras and havin fun, we talk for a while...
at times i do run out of things to talk about, im not too great at bullshitting, but we get by.
so its time to leave , i go to say by, she hugs me and i say hey we should hang out let me get your number ill call you sometime
so i get the number

now...whats the next step
when do i call/text, what do i say....enlighten me!
i have a few other posts on here about getting numbers and talking to 2 other girls and i ended up ruining those....help me make this work!

Firstly, good man for taking the first step!

ok so your at the point you've got numbers, realise that you have the ability and confidence to get these numbers its as easy as you make it.

so the girls number you got last night, text her if your interested say hello, ask her if she had a good time last night etc etc, tell her your going into town to pick something up and she could come keep you company.

If she doesnt feel it, so what? You must now realise that you can get other girls so what if she doesnt want to go out with you? theres a good 6 million others that would if not more!

Hope this helps

Gimme a shout if you need me

thanks for the help bro

so i should text today, not tomorrow? should i bother saying "hey its ___ from last night" or just go straight into "hey did you have fun last night? im about to run to the mall to blah blah, want to join me?"

Yeah why not fella, give her a text today if you fancy going to town if not text her tomorrow, nahh dont say who it is, to me that seems needy like she wont remember that she gave you her number.

when you meet her kino her playfully first then escalate, if your feeling the kiss go for it

Totti

haha ok ill text her today
just noticed on face book it says shes in a relationship...but that wont stop me

im off to the gym, ill let you guys know what happens, thanks for the advice totti

You should text her today and tell her it was nice meeting her, so she doesnt think it was just some drunk exchange. Then mention getting together for dinner or something this week. Then nothing til Monday or Tuesday, and just say you wanted to see how she was doing and what her schedule is like for whatever....I dont know but that's what I do.

ok fellas...update time
so i left the gym and texted her
"so did you have fun last night?"
"yea whos this"
"the charming intelligent cute greek/italian guy you met last night"
she laughs, we text for a lil bit
then i say so i just failed miserably at trying to find clothes to buy
she asks why, i tell her i need help and im going to another mall tomorrow if she wants to come

she replies with "well i have to be honest...i have a boyfriend weve been seeing each other for a while, he goes to school (about 30 mins away) and has been gone for a while and its really confusing for me and i want to be friends with you"
i say, "thats cool, this isnt a date, its fashion advice"
shes like "i just wanted to be honest i know i met you last night but i wanted to tell you so i didnt lead you on sorry if i sound like a freak but i need to be honest"

so i say i appreciate the honesty, i just got out of a year long relationship with a crazy chick, so im just looking to meet some cool new people and hang out with them

so she replies with "i think that would be great we can totally go to the mall and ill help you find some stuff do you have aol or aim?"
(score!)

i tell her mine, she says ok cool heres mine, its long and girly and cheesey, so i make fun of it real quick she tells me to shut up.
i ask her to figure mine out (its my initials and bday) and she gets it, im like oh well im glad to see you have some intelligence to go with the good looks!
she goes i can surprise you sometimes, i say good i like surprises

ok fast forward to the good stuff....she ims me on aim (earlier she told me she was doing some studying and i asked if she uploaded pics from last night) i say hows the studying going?
she repies with
"yea well when you have this charming intelligent greek/itailian boy asking you if you put the pictures up yet everything else kind of gets put to the side"
(score x2!)
so anyway i throw a few more negs at her, we have a few laughs, by then i had to go and i told her if shes interested in going shopping tomorrow let me know


what do you guys think?
if we end up going tomorrow, how far do i take it? start with some kino...if things are goin good, try for a k-close? or wait to see whats going on with this boyfriend bs

edit: the kino on the night we met was through the roof..grinding and posing for pictures and stuff. and she wasnt drunk (doesnt drink) and she knows i had less than a beer. plus the hug after i got her number and left. so should i take this into consideration or start over with just a hug when i see her?

lol im getting too ahead of myself, my problem is i want to know what to do in every position...i gotta chill i know!

wow well i have to say mate that what your doing now is GAME

man the way you reacted to what she said about relationships was BIG! I like it

for me personally i would kino playfully see how this takes, watch for IOI's see if you get them, when you do go for some compliance tests, like put her hand on your leg, leave it there, see if she does, if she dont then turn your body away from her calmly

you sound like you know what your doing, bit of advice... if your stuck, think to yourself what would i advise someone to do if they were in my shoes?

If the opportunity for kiss closing is there take it, but dont force it, also look up some BF destroyers so you know what to do when she mentions him

also just a thought, if she mentions relationships again (which is a IOI in itself) just say to her "kool I'm only looking for a part-time girlfriend anyway" and joke about it

God... just been to this party it was dead man

Totti

my game is young, but its growing lol

haha i like that part time girlfriend bit

i havent heard of boyfriend destroyers, i need to read up on that, have any you prefer over others?

hmmm BF destroyers, well ive just recently read up on them and i get the concept took naturally to it..

the concept behind it is to make him seem like a dick without saying it.. examples

Her: Hes always nasty to me

You: hes just insecure he knows he will never find another girl like you so hes nasty to keep you keen. (when your doing this go for some sexual kino, but only gentle)

or another option is to completely ignore the fact he was mentioned and change subject without noticing he was mentioned.

how long you been in the game?

ive only seriously started reading up on this for 2 weeks. i downloaded tons of mysterys stuff and i even took notes on it lol. how long have you been at it?

i got the "thats cool, its not a date, just fashion advice" line from this vid
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj5D2i2O9D0
at 4 mins in when hes hitting on the girl in green and she says shes seeing someone

so in this case with the bf destroyers, since its not out at a bar and i dont have to worry about him being there, if she says i have a boyfriend i can use lines like....

replies...
"thats cool, im not the jealous type."
"thats cute"
"thats ok...we can be discrete."
and just follow up with DHV or changing the topic
(credit from those goes to the guys in this thread... 1-vt713.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

the thing is, she semi lowered his value herself when she told me
"well i have to be honest...i have a boyfriend weve been seeing each other for a while, he goes to school (about 30 mins away) and has been gone for a while and its really confusing for me and i want to be friends with you"

so if i was out shopping with her, would those 1 liners work or would you go another way?

yeah they would work, but when she complains to you about him just use the technique I described and you should get along fine

Ive been in the game for about 6 Months now and things are good.

You have read up well i'll give you that, i personally like the more natural approach but thats based around my personality.

Totti

haha thanks
ill try these out if it comes up

should i be the first to contact her today or wait to hear from her?

Depends fella, contact her and tell her that your going in X hours and meet you at such and such, dont ask her tell her

keep me posted mateyyy

Totti

so i texted her, she told me she was studying for a midterm on tuesday, but wants to hang out wednesday, i told her i might be able to find some time for her
she goes "oh well thank you very much "

so were talkin, hows your day, she says studying all day and it sucks, i play off our lil joke yesterday and say well i hope no cute charming greek guys are bothering you again.
shes like "haha youre too funny...do you know any of those?" i give her some smart ass remark and i get "that was cute ill give you that"

so we made plans for wednesday...so far things are looking good.
how often should i keep in contact with her until then?