Most people at my school think im some mega player that gets bitches 24/7

sooo... girls tend to stay away from me and call me out about it often so i dont really get any action... just cause i've made out with 4 girls this year they do this shit to me.. how do i combat this? i sometimes just say hey look yeah i've made out with 4 girls but i havent had sex with more than 1 girl in my life etc explaining myself.. i've done the a player? how did you know.. i play soccer.. ping pong etc .. but i need more responses.

thanks

kabannnn

Don't defend yourself. You are a man, you have a love for women. You have nothing to apologize for.

Be wrong and strong. Get this straight, there is nothing wrong with being a player. I get called out a LOT and people tell me I'm a player. Just smile, shrug it off "so?" This reputation is a good thing. Don't brag about it or bring it up, but if women know that you are successful with other women, they will be more interested. If you get a reputation for using women, however, then that could bite you in the ass.

I used to try and defend myself too "no, I'm really not!" But that is really counter productive. It shows her that you aren't comfortable, you are self conscious, and you DON'T get women. Don't even ever mention that you have only done 'y' with 'x' amount of girls. The best thing you can do when someone calls you a player, is to elicit values or personality traits from her and show genuine interest in them. Also, keep a shroud of mystery around you and don't give too much away.

Women want players, do you think they would rather hang with a loser? They don't want to be used though, so tone down the cockiness, and up the amount of value you give (given to her for good behavior or things you like about her personality).

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what do i say if a girl says so i hear that all you want is to fuck a girl then leave her and all you want is sex?

Yea, see that is a bit of a problem...

I would just go "I'm sorry you feel that way," (try to look genuinely disappointed) and end the conversation with her. Move on.

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No matter what the hell they say and do, women LOVE players. Period. You've got to believe this . . . you've got to know this . . .

No matter what the hell they say and do, all men wish they were players. Period. You've got to know this . . .

So now, the only thing up in the air is 'how to frame this reality' to your benefit. COCKY FUNNY . . . You just have to run with it.

First off, you've got to learn to pawn some girls off to your close buddies. Think of yourself as a mob leader. If you want to keep your post, you've got to give your guys some benefits. Without this, they'll trow a coup and you're done. AFC's love it even if they get to be in the same room with pretty girls. You don't really have to do much. And as long as you're not an arrogant bastard to them, they'll give you props. When they tell girls, "This guy is a player. . ." Let me tell you, those girls are thinking. "Well, if he's with all these girls, what's WRONG WITH ME? Why hasn't he kissed ME?"

So when they give you their lines, it's just the way they deal with their insecurities. . . .PERIOD. You'll realize this the very first time you go cocky funny and BUST UP their GAME.

When dealing with these girls, just run with it and let it flow. This is the frame. . .

I think this was 3 weeks ago . . . and it went something like:

HB: "You're a player". . .

Kasabi: What the hell does that even mean? I'll have you know that I'm a gentleman. Before I ask you out on date, I'm going to buy you flowers and chocolates and I'm going to show up wearing a suit. (This is sort of my "go to" line) (Damn! Use it sparingly people)

HB: No way, you're a liar. You've totally blown it with me. We're definitely not going out. (She was actually shaking her head side to side and doing that girly handshake back and forth to my face. So fucking rude really. . .)

Kasabi: What the hell? We never even went out and you're breaking up with me? Well you can't because I'm breaking up with you!

HB: What?!? (Giving me the WTF look)

Kasabi: You heard me, I want your toothbrush out of my bathroom and your cd's out of my living room.

HB: (Laughing but she has no idea what the hell to say)

Kasabi: Oh yeah? You think that's all? I hate Celine Dion. I only told you I liked her so I could get into your pants! There. Now, you can take all your wussy shit out of my place.

(This is said loud enough so that ppl around us can hear and they're laughing. I'm winking at them . . . So if the HB flakes, she looks like a doofus with no humor)

HB: (Catching on now) You're crazy. You only want to break up with me because I told you I'm breaking up with you. You love me. You can't let me go.

Kasabi: Oh yeah I can. . . And I did.

HB: No . . no! . . . we've been together for like 20 minutes. We're going to throw all this away?

Kasabi: So what you're saying is you're willing make this work? You know, I may look strong but I have feelings too you know. (Grabbing my heart) Oh . . . You hurt me.

HB: Ohhhh. . . come here . . .

The end. . . and in the end, all she wanted was to be part of the fun. All women ever want is to be part of the fun. Give them a convenient, non-threatening path to the fun (YOU) and you're all set.

no matter what women say, they all want to get with a player. they can't help it, they are just attracted to them

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thank you guys so much! i was never ashamed of being a player.. but i thought it was bad in the eyes of women but now i love it and im gonna start lovin' life! it was the only trouble i had.