| I'm sure that everyone has heard about playing "hard to get", however, not many know why this tactic works so well to attract the opposite sex... or the correct ways to make it work to your advantage. Get out your pen and paper, or get your printer ready, because I'm going to break it down for you.
Think of it this way: Remember when you were a kid and you were told that you could not have something? That made you want it ten times more badly, didn't it? We will go to great lengths to gain possession of what we can not have, simply because it is a natural human instinct to strive for what is just out of our reach. If this were not built into our minds the way it is, I highly doubt that our society would be even remotely close to being as evolved as it is today. We would simply lack the necessary motivation.
When you apply this principle to the dating game in the proper manner, it will prove to be one of the most powerful weapons in your arsenal. Playing "hard to get" is much more important than most people think, and in my personal opinion it is almost necessary to use it on at least some sort of level if you plan on getting and keeping any beautiful women. I say that because just as we want what we can not have, in turn we do not want what we can easily get. If you do not play "hard to get" at all, you are placing yourself in the "easy to get" category, which is exactly where you don't want to be.
Playing "hard to get" is a fairly simple concept once you've learned the rules, and that is what I'm about to teach you. The only tricky part is being able to stick with it, because it will require you to fight certain urges that can become quite strong. Overcoming these urges is next to impossible for the average man, who is uneducated on this subject and does not know that giving in to these urges is a mistake, because they may "feel" like the right thing to do... that is why I call this the tricky part. With that in mind, let's move on to the most important stuff, the do's and dont's.
Always appear to be busy, even when you aren't. Lie or fake it if you have to. If you pick up the phone when a woman calls you and answer the question "What are you doing?" with "Nothing" then you've just made a huge (but very common) mistake. When you always seem to be busy you are displaying to others that you are an interesting person with an exciting life, the type of life that a woman would like to be involved in. On the other hand, when you never seem to be doing much you will be viewed as a boring person. If you are trying to be attractive to women, boring will just not make the cut, enough said.
Always make it obvious that you are attracted to her, but never let her know how much you really like her. Even if you are madly in love with her and can't seem to think about anything else, always make her believe that you like her ten times less than you actually do.
Never initiate anything that has to do with a commitment. If you want her to be your girlfriend wait until she brings the subject up. Remember that you've got to control these urges!
On that same note... never tell her that you love her before she tells you first, and when she tells you for the first time don't let her know that the feeling is mutual right away, wait a few days. This is a very important rule, if you mess this up it will be the beginning of the end, which will come rather quickly.
Unless you are engaged in a long-term relationship, never stay on the phone with a girl for more than five minutes. Many men make this mistake thinking that it is a good thing because they are getting to know the woman, but what they are actually doing is showing the woman that they have nothing better to do than sit around chatting. This is exactly what I was talking about earlier... you must appear to be busy ALL of the time, so when her five minutes are up tell her that you have something to do and need to get off of the phone.
Do not always accept her invitations to hang out. I like to call this the 50/50 rule because you should only accept about half of the time. While the other half you should gently refuse with your excuse being that you have something important to do.
Never act as if her behavior bothers you, even if it does. For example, if she flirts with another guy or if you see her with someone else, act like you could really care less (only if she is not your girlfriend yet, obviously). She is only trying to make you jealous in order to find out how much you really like her, and you are never supposed to let her know that, remember? Plus becoming jealous is a sign of insecurity, which is not a very attractive character trait.
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