I was at a party and chatting to this girl for around 10 minutes and suddenly she asked me if I have a girlfriend. A few minutes later we exchanged telephone number.

Does this mean she fancy me in anyway? Never had girls ask me if I had a girlfriend 10 minutes into the conversation.

This is an ioi. she is basicly saying "i'm interested, are you single?"

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What baller said. Some guys think, "oh shit if I say I haven't got a gf then she'll think I'm a loser so I need a clever reply to avoid answering it straight and be all mysterious and keep her guessing".

No.

You can tell her you're single if she asks. I swear. If a girl asks if you're single it's a pretty blatant IOI so run with it... it's all about attitude, so smile and say it with a nice warm energy. Don't shit your pants and look at the floor and say "um.... yeah" like a tool. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of.

Yeah, in the past I've always answered them honestly and directly as I believe they wouldn't have asked that if they weren't somehow interested in gettin down and dirty w/ u

But is there a better/more clever answer to this question?

I got out of a LTR about a month ago, and I have found that reply (which happens to be true for me SPAM, but anyone can use it obviously) to be good. As long as you don't go into a conversation about ex's or something lame like that, I think it shows that you are wanted by other women and that you're able to sustain a relationship. Just make sure to say, if necessary, that you were the one who broke it off.

Would "At the moment, yes" work?

By adding some kind of FTC would it give you more value in her eyes? Just a thought.

There are many ways you can answer this question, but the best is to twist her words and make it seem as though she is chasing you.

In your situation, I say to her friend "wow, i've only known her for 10 minutes and she's already talking about dating me. Is she always this forward?"

The more you can construe her intentions to involve you and her, you are creating comfort and rapport.

Don't answer this question with a simple yes or no because it is a great opportunity to get closer to your target.

Hope that answers it well for you. If you have any questions, let me know.

i normally reply with "my my, arent we forward?" the first time. if she asks you again just say "yes". you can also neg her again now and make her look like she's chasing you with "you've only known me a few minutes and you already want me ass..." or something to that effect.

btw - slightly off topic... but does it matter who broke up with who? i mean, relationships are built based on compatibility, so if things just didnt work out then surely it's no ones fault?
i have no problem with telling girls that my ex broke up with me (if they ask of course, and i dont ever talk about past relationships), but maybe thats just my naive AFC side coming out again...

i've had a few girls ask me why my ex and i broke up, i always replied with "we had an awesome run, but things just didnt work out in the end" and then leave it there. i feel like this is actually a bit of a DHV. it shows you had an awesome girl and that you're mature enough to not say bad things about her

Yeah thanks guys, that's definitely a better response than just a simple straight forward "yes". Nice, shoulda thought of that

In regards to ex's, I always divert their attention to something else with a neg/C&F. I always see it as a shit-test & they just wanna see how you treated your women. If you're too cocky, you're fked. If you're too nice, you're fked. If you're too normal, you're fked. You gain nothing out of talking about it & it's too easy to make mistakes so personally I think it's best left un-discussed.

*Sigh* At least... dont even go there... *Sigh*

I totally agree with this. For me, it's inevitably going to come up within the first couple of dates that I'm divorced (I never bring it up myself), so it's really important to communicate that you're not single now because you're a loser or a lousy piece of shit. Sometimes I need to go a little more into depth because being divorced tends to get the girl's guard up, but HXC's wording is actually really close to what I say (and it's true). I usually sum it up with "we don't really keep in touch any more, but I always wish her the best and she does the same for me." It's always an awkward subject, but this is a total DHV in terms of maturity and shows that you're a guy who will "always leave them better than when you met them", even if the relationship doesn't work out.