I am completely new to this site, never even knew there were such things. I have got a big problem with woman and getting them yes, but I just don't have a love for life more importantly. Everytime I try and meet somebody or make friends etc...I feel alot of times that peole just wana do watever they can to get out of talking to me. Is this kind of stuff all in my head? If so how do I change my perspective on life, Ive lost joy in all the little things too. I could really use to help, thx guys

dude dude relax. that's all you gota do. relax. nobody dislikes you, or wants to run away from you. trust me u can be the ugliest guy on the planet and ppl will stil want to talk to you. but then again you can be the most handsome guy and ppl will run away from you if they know u think they hate you.

what i would say is start at home, talk to your brothers, sisters, mom dad and all relatives as mch as you cn about everything you can and then school frends and then neighbours and frends at your ends watever. jus dont think about the fact ppl want to run away from you. that is not tru.

no body dislikes you it is all in your head.and gurls they are easy jus chill and tok to dem and be yourself and is all gud

Often, you thinking people are uncomfortable around you as you talk to them, will actually be given off in your behaviour.

In thinking, and in suit, acting in such a way is what makes people uncomfortable.

Drop the negativety and as someone above said, relax. Force yourself to talk to people...and try not to look out for signs they are 'uncomfortable' just concentrate on the conversation.

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Using situational openers?
Throwing yourself in?
Able to flow conversationally from every good or bad comment they make?
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yeah man this is all in your head. Just try and loosen up a bit. I've read about people phoning randoms in the phone book and asking bums for money to gain confidence. Maybe try some of these things because to me it sounds like approach anxiety that stays even while your talking to them.

You guys don't know if it's in the OP's head or not so let's not make any judgments here. There are those who have uncanny abilities to repel people so there are chances that the OP is doing something wrong. . . or maybe it's just in his head . . . Eitherway, "brushing" this shit off or simply "relaxing" isn't going to help.

Personally, I'd think some professional counseling could help but you can try this:

If you don't "love life", there are chances that there are things in life that you want . . . but you can't get or you feel you can't get. If you simply allow these physical, tangible things to transfer to negative emotions, people around you will sense it. If you allow these negative emotions to swallow you up, you will then turn these negative emotions to actual physical acts that prevent you from achieving things you want to achieve. It's a vicious cycle. . .

So, instead of trying to "relax" and feel "better" (this is nearly impossible) attack the physical, tangible things that you can control. For example, you can't tell a hungry guy, "Stop feeling hungry! Stop feeling hungry!" But you can tell him to eat a sandwich and the hunger feelings stop on their own . . .right?

So take a quiet break for yourself and write down ALL THE THINGS you want in life. Everything. Don't limit yourself with your financial situation, social situation, physical situation . . . nothing. Just write it all down. Many can't even do this. If you can be truthful to yourself and you can admit to yourself that you WANT certain things out of life, you're already half way there. Try it. If you can make a list and you'd like to figure out how to achieve your crazy list of "wants", pm me.

I've learned some strategic planning methods for business/operations, etc . . .and I've applied them towards "life". I can't promise you that you can achieve anything and everything as I'm not nearly there myself. But it absolutely makes sense and I can promise you that the process itself is rewarding enough to give you a more positive outlook every time you make a check mark on your calender.