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Rosewood
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Ok, so this girl I have been hitting on for a while has had this boyfriend, but, I found out today that he has apparently been cheating on her for a few months. I think she is pretty into me, she did recently tell me Im her new favorite person, but I really only talk to her when we walk back from class (im at college). Any suggestions on how to pick her up/ask her out? I feel like i gotta be kind of delicate since she JUST broke up with this dude, but maybe im wrong...
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Tell her you guys should do something together and make it something fun. Show her you're attracted to her, don't fuck around and play games pretending that you're not and trying to be delicate. She doesn't want to be coddled, or have you pretend you aren't interested, no woman does. If she isn't interested she'll tell you, but until then, show her your attraction.

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I mean, yeah I am not trying to play games, just never quite been in this situation before...
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I mean, yeah I am not trying to play games, just never quite been in this situation before...
Not saying you, just telling what women really want. All those guys telling us that we should shut our emotions off and act like we're not interested haven't been talking to women about what turns them on. Sure, it might make them pursue you because you are fucking with their heads, but it won't yield any kind of healthy relationship. That's exactly why guys like Mystery are miserable and don't have real relationships.

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All those guys telling us that we should shut our emotions off and act like we're not interested haven't been talking to women about what turns them on. Sure, it might make them pursue you because you are fucking with their heads, but it won't yield any kind of healthy relationship. That's exactly why guys like Mystery are miserable and don't have real relationships.
So maybe something like this?

"Hey, I have been thinking about this thing that happened with your ex, and it really kind of bugs me. I'm gonna take you out this week so you can just forget about this guy. And if it doesn't make you feel better, even though I know it will (with a real cocky attitude here), I will at least feel better about it"

Forward enough? or too pussy....
If you have a better idea let me know, Im progressing nicely (I talk to so many more women now) but I'm still kind of new to this whole game...
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All those guys telling us that we should shut our emotions off and act like we're not interested haven't been talking to women about what turns them on. Sure, it might make them pursue you because you are fucking with their heads, but it won't yield any kind of healthy relationship. That's exactly why guys like Mystery are miserable and don't have real relationships.
So maybe something like this?

"Hey, I have been thinking about this thing that happened with your ex, and it really kind of bugs me. I'm gonna take you out this week so you can just forget about this guy. And if it doesn't make you feel better, even though I know it will (with a real cocky attitude here), I will at least feel better about it"

Forward enough? or too pussy....
If you have a better idea let me know, Im progressing nicely (I talk to so many more women now) but I'm still kind of new to this whole game...
Not a good idea to bring the ex up, as she might feel guilty about doing something with you (even though she's broken up). I'd go with something along the lines of:

"Hey, since I'm your new favorite person, I'm going to take you to *get a coffee, play mini-golf, whatever* this weekend. How's Saturday sound?
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Yeah, Crz has a much better idea Rosewood. You don't want to bring up the ex and tell her your intent to date her explicitly (sorry, shoulda clarified that more I guess). Just show your attraction by telling her you want to do stuff with her, touching her playfully and with your eyes and body. You know what they say, "actions speak louder than words".

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Ok, so there is this little club in town that has all sorts of different indie bands that play there. So I figure next time I walk home with her (if her friend doesn't tag along, and I have her number so I can just call her later on if she does) Ill suggest we go see a show "since im her new favorite person." Thanks for the help guys
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Ok, so there is this little club in town that has all sorts of different indie bands that play there. So I figure next time I walk home with her (if her friend doesn't tag along, and I have her number so I can just call her later on if she does) Ill suggest we go see a show "since im her new favorite person." Thanks for the help guys
That sounds good. Except who cares about her friend? Just shows you have more balls if you have the courage to ask in front of her friend. That's a good thing.

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While i tend to agree with you, don't I run the risk of alienating her friend? Plus, I dont know that I can guarantee she wont ask her friend to come with on the spot...Not saying I cant/wont do it, I just feel like it might get awkward beyond my control.
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While i tend to agree with you, don't I run the risk of alienating her friend? Plus, I dont know that I can guarantee she wont ask her friend to come with on the spot...Not saying I cant/wont do it, I just feel like it might get awkward beyond my control.
It's only awkward if you allow it to be. It's up to you how confident you are in what you're saying. There's no reason that you will alienate the friend if you are confident and not creepy when you are showing your interest. If you're creepy though, you'll creep the girl out as well, so it doesn't really matter. Just be sure of yourself, you're not doing anything weird!

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