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My question is this: when I first enter the party with my friends/wingman and start talking, is it worth it to look for repeated eye contact from the girls around the room, or am I better off waiting until some of the ladies come to me? I'm not passive by any means, but I remember reading that it's bad to always be looking around the party.
Don't look for eye contact, and don't be looking around the party. If you are by yourself and you see something you like, go in right away. Make it an automatic response in your head so you don't have time to build up approach anxiety. The only time you should hang back is if you already have company, preferably of women, and are seen as the social center of the room.
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Also, I've gotten some great material from this forum (changed most of it to fit my style of conversation), and I wanted to throw this out there. Let me know what you all think:
Me (after basic intros, name/major/etc): So what are you into, what are you passionate about?
HB: blah blah blah13209850sdf;jj
Me (cocky/funny): So...nothing interesting then? (smile) Kidding, you mentioned blah blah blah
It's usually good to be cocky/funny, but not in this situation. For a girl to like you, she is going to have to feel an emotional connection with you. If you shoot down her passions and her personality, then there is nothing there for her to connect to you with.
At some point you need to make or fake an emotional connection, and this point is really good. She talks about something she is in to, and you go off on how you feel the same way and get exited about the feeling.
If you have no commonalities, get exited about the similar feelings you and her have over certain passions. For example, if she is in to dancing, you could focus on the athleticism and mastering movements (assume you do some sport).