so i have this problem, and i'm just interested if anybody else has this.
when i was a virgin i always feared being to quick to cum. well losing my virginity was a good experience. a one night stand, that couldn't have been any more enjoyable. went bareback and just exploded in her.

now the second girl. i said we should use a condom but she said lets not. however she stressed not to cum inside her. so the whole time we had sex i said to myself. don't cum, don't cum, don't cum... turns out i never did.
the next day. i still didn't... more so couldn't.

i went about 5 yrs without sex after that
just recently, i dated a girl throughout summer. mostly just a booty call.
the first night we wore a condom. it ended up falling off and we didn't have another so we stopped there....
the next time we went bareback. for 3 hours we had sex. I never came.

i tried self hypnosis. telling myself to cum as quick as i could. the next time we had sex. after foreplay we go at it. and seriously maybe 10 pumps in i'm getting off...
we fall asleep and when waking up we go at it again, AND AGAIN! like ten pumps and its over

i go back into hypnosis and tell myself just go when i'm ready and that sent me back to where i was in the begginning. ( i don't know much about self hypnosis but i 'm trying to understand it)

so now here i am. not able to cum with women. and since i stopped seeing this girl a couple months ago. i haven't gamed one bit. i fear another 5 year drought.

any thoughts, critisizm, i'd love to hear any response you'll give
thank you


ps i know the importance of a condom. its always on from here on out!

don't worry dude you are not the only one. I also have a similar problem. Only rarely do I cum with a woman...the problem I've had was that the girls think they are doing something wrong.

Something I do...can you cum when you masturbate? What do you think about when you do? Anything in particular you jerk off to the most? Try applying her to those fantasies, if only in your head. It has worked for me in the past, may work for you.

Have you tried learning to orgasm without ejaculating? That is usually what I do when I'm really horny (which I tend to get if I don't have sex/masturbate in like 3-4 days or so )... I just hold back the sperm when the orgasm comes.. you use the same muscles that you use when you control your peeing... practice stopping and starting the "flow" the next time you need to go to the bathroom.

If you learn to do this properly, it doesn't matter if you come in like 10 seconds, because you will be ready to go again very soon (depends on the intensity of the orgasm.. for me it's usually between 10 seconds and 1 minute. Sometimes I don't ever stop at all). I can usually control when I come, but sometimes a girl just gets me so damned turned on I can't control myself (with a really hot outfit or something, haha ), and then I fall back on this. It's a very good tool to have in bed

If you really want to learn how to do it then read this book.

"HOW TO MAKE LOVE ALL NIGHT AND DRIVE A WOMAN WILD"
by barbara keesling

This book gives exercise on HOW to learn this.
HOPE it helps^^

i appreciate your advice guys. yes i have learned how to hold back the cum during and orgasm. i found this out when i was younger because if i hold back. then go at it again i could get a second orgasm right after the first

however thats not my problem. i never cum/orgasm with a woman. i've only been able to the two times i listed. i've tried going back into trance and go back the insta orgasms but i can't get myself to do that anymore.

will that book still help. cause i can already go all night long?

and like the first guys said in a reply. after a couple nights the woman will start asking questions. am i not tight/wet enough? do you not find me pretty/attractive? and as much as i try to tell them its all me and nothing to do with them. they'll never accept that answer. its kind of a burden on the relationship.
i tried to model what he said about thinking what i think about when masturbating. and that hasn't worked for me yet.

I'm not sure about that part.

The book just teach you about how to have as much as orgasm
as you want and do it all night.@_@

Let me go thru the book and see if there is anything that helpful
about this.

Will reply on Monday.

Sorry for the late reply....been doing alot of work and forgot to
follow up with the post....

I think i'll get the book anyways

Sorry man... been busy and haven't got a chance to go online.
South Africa is not easy to get a internet connection.

Cool man. Hope the stuff in the book helps you.