Howdy all,

Obviously qualification is a huge part of building attraction and comfort with a girl. However, I'm kinda at a loss as to whether there is importance of disqualifaication. I just feel that qualification is a bit hypocritical and feels like you are trying to impress her.

For example, I often make statements such as 'awh, your much too cute for me'.

Or another example is I ask them what they look for in a guy?
And they might say he must be kind and tall.
And I would say 'oh no, I'm a small mean-ass and playfully push them gently away and say 'what ya doin with me?' It makes them blush and builds kino.

I just feel qualification plays rights in to there hands as you're kind of pulling them whereas instead I challenge and have fun with them using playful/teasing with lots of push. I just find it much more effective and enjoyable as they won't have any idea if you like them. Is this disqualification or am I confused?

Any thoughts/help on this would be greatly appreciated.

Take it easy,

E

E,

Your post immediately struck with potential frame issues. However, it may simply be that this is an area I can, and potentially should, relax my frame.

Telling a girl she is too cute for me, is something I'd stray away from. Maybe switch it to "Your too much of a good girl for me." with a playful smile.

Similarly, I don't ask what types of guys girls are into unless its a logical extension to ongoing conversation. And yes, it provides a lot of opportunity for diqualifications, negs, and kino. But again, I must stress, I don't like to show that level of interest to ask such a question. In fact, once a girl asked me that question on a date. I did not reciprocate. She was my GF of 2 years.

[quote="A Minor"] But again, I must stress, I don't like to show that level of interest to ask such a question.

Cheers for the reply, I agree alot with what you say. However, I really didn't state that playful/teasing is how I always am with a girl, so I guess it is never to be taken that serious and usual we just get a laugh out of it. I mean, I've never had a girl start listing qualities, i just ruffle her hair and build kino from there.

Thanks again...

I think if you disqualify yourself it may show confidence in a way, even more if you are playful while doing it.

Before i got into the game i remember i got i girl by just disqualifying myself... i was interested in her but my friend was crazy about her, so i tried to disqualify myself.

Now, although i think it may help, i don't use it or recommend it.

Disqualification is important. Girls may like how cute tigers are but they won't go near one showing it's teeth.

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Reverse your line of thinking on the disqualification, and think of it as another way of making the girl qualifying her self to you.

Didn't really look in to this too much before posting.

Disqualification is an important part of MM.

Think of comments such as 'f I wasn't gay, you'd so be mine'.

Or for a more simpler example that I'm sure some of you have experienced: when you have a girlfriend and you're on a night out but she's not there, think how many easy opportunites have presented themselves because the girls don't that you're trying to pick them up, simple really...