My situation sucks and i've been thinking about how to play this out...

this girl and I used to be wicked good friends. then she heard i had a crush on her. after she found that out she started to talk to me less and less. (probably because i had this girl at the time) but now im single and i try calling her she doesnt answer she makes me want her. shes playing the game better then i, haha... but im smarter then that... i havent talked to her in a week. as much as i would like to go with her. i just want to be her friend

is there anybody who can give me advice to make her talk to me again?

i dont know guys ive done it all DHV's Negs there was no IOI's, i know im her type.... shes not a lesbian, shes just one of the guys and shes such an HB8... this sucks lol

Mistake #1. If she "heard" that you had a crush on her, you told people about this crush but you didn't have the balls to demonstrate your crush on her. Women like confidence. They don't like to hear behind-the-back "crush gossips" from men. It's very wussy.
No . . . I'm putting up 25 to 1 odds that the other girl had NOTHING to do with this. This girl was in her comfort zone as your "buddy" and in her mind, you fucked it up.

Hearing that silly rumor makes her feel that every time you "ha ha . . . we're just cool buddies," in the past, what you really meant was, "Ha ha . . . I'm pretending to be cool buddies with you but what I really want is to drill your pussy with my boner right now. I'll just play this out and see if I can get anywhere."

Even though women know that all men think this way ALL the time, they just don't want to be reminded. And they don't want to be reminded that a "good buddy" is thinking this way about her.
Generally, women play this game better but she's not playing a game. She's just tired of you for now.

Suggestions.

#1. Never ever gossip about who you like and who you don't like to your friends. You're not a chick and you were probably not getting your nails/hair done while you started this rumor.
#2. Stop calling her for now. you're already a creep. By calling her all the time, you can only elevate this status.
#3. Get back into the swing of things with your friends and other girls. Go out, have fun. Go on dates. Get back into a better frame.

Remember, all this time there will always be a piece of you in her heart. You don't have to try to identify it. . . just remember that she's not going to simply forget you. You have to have faith in this. This faith will give you the confidence to move on to:

#4. Call her. . . yeah, call her. maybe 2 weeks later . . .maybe 3 weeks . . . I don't know. You'll have to gauge it for yourself. But you don't call her to chit chat. You call her for a fun invite, "Hey, _____ and _______.(mutual friends) We're all going to _______. Wanna go?" If she says yes. Then make sure that you go right back into that friend routine for now. She says no? You go. "OK, maybe next time." Next week, try the same. She says no and you're done. Never call her back but odds are that she'll say yes.
#5. Right at the end of a day/night out and you just had a great time, you hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek. You have to stare at her eyes. You have to be very genuine. If after the hug, she doesn't immediately pull away, you go caveman. If you sense she's pulling away. Pull her back in a bit. If you can sense her pulling back, smile . . . "see you later." If she complies and comes back in easy, . . . caveman.

Repeat 3, 4 and 5 until you're in her pants.

Freeze it out, ignore her. I have found myself in this situation (without the girlfriend part, which has NOTHING to do with her reaction) and as hard as it might be you gotta move on. At least for a good 3 weeks, ignore her, even if it involves when you get eye contact with her looking away, make it clear, the moment she comes and asks you why you are ignoring her, BAM, reset has been done and you can start from the beginning.

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But what do I know, I'm a green-eyed 6'3" freshman who hasn't even kissed a girl yet.

ah yeah ill do that for sure. but the thing is i would never say i have a crush on her. what am i gay? (no offense to gay people) It was my other friend who had a crush on her who told her the rumor i think :/

and she used to talk to him as much as me the three of us were chill. now we just dont even bother even if we all wanted to chill...

ill just give it the time it needs. thanks bros

ok this is the deal i just called her and she didnt pick up its been 2 weeks since i last talked to her and im having a party so i was like hey ill invite her to see if things are cool... apparently not...

should i not talk to her till her birthday which is first week of november?

my plan for that would get her a gift (apple cider bacon she loves that shit) then mysteriously give it to her like tape it to her car. and then later that night call her to wish a happy birthday and such and see if i can mention anything to get her to say someone did that for her... any suggestions lol. personally i like mine

Knofs,

I'm willing to bet that you skipped step #3. Dude, you have to go OUT. You have to sarge other women. You have to build up a "harem" of fun girls you can hang out with all the time. Stop thinking about a "game plan" for now. Just follow those steps and everything will come together.

"Ignoring" is for 14 year old kids and chicks. You're not "ignoring" her. You're having so much fun, you just don't have time for her. . . for now. Stay the hell away from gifts; do not try to 'romance' her. For God's sake take this girl off of your pedestal and put her in your pestle (as in pestle and mortar) and GRIND THIS little ice girl out!

She's a girl. She's ignoring you because she's into you. Every time you call her and every time you stay at home thinking about her, she gets a little shot of endorphin. Do not let her leech off of you like this.

How about you stop calling her period. Just stop. It isn't working.

If you want to talk to her, then do it in a way where you don't come off a a creepy obsessed fiend. Go talk to her in person and clear the air. Let her know you're interested, or tell her you're interested but you know she isn't and you don't give a shit, you're not gonna stop being attracted to her, but you don't want it to ruin your friendship.

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im sure that advice is all accurate to a situation. but not this one this girl is a year younger then me lives 25 mins away.. so yeah i dont think of her all the time thats weird i do play the field when i go to concerts and parties. she doesnt know what im doing. its not about me getting with her thatll come eventually i just need her back in my life as a friend cause of all the good times we had smoking whatever we could drinking till we couldnt stand up and watching jurassic fight club. laughing at all the guys get off to how awesome a raptor could kill something....

i invited her over to my party i called and shit but she didnt pick up

and that other girl mentioned in the previous post was my girlfriend who was her friend... so shit would explode...

but ahh idk this is like some pussy dr phil shit that i just need to solve on my own i guess

thanks for the criticism guys

update... she called. i didnt answer. she said sh was busy. give it till next week to call back make plans an i will say "ive been busy lately but we should try an hang out soon?"

would that work

She called . . . obviously, there's some interest. She hasn't been acting the way she wants to act. Rather, she's been acting the way she thinks a girl her age in her situation is supposed to act.

Rye is spot on. before you go any further, a 1 on 1 will definitely clear this mess. You guys are running around in circles. Once that's done . . .

Remember Star Wars? "Do or do not. There is no try." - Yoda. And there is no "hang out". have a plan. Go somewhere fun. Have a destination in mind. Ask a girl, "What do you want to do? Where do you want to go?, etc . . " and it's always, "I dunno . . ."

Tell her you are going _______ and you're going to do _______ and _______ and they go, "OK."

A meeting would be ideal in this situation. Try to arrange one.

You need to state your interest and make your intentions clear. If she is interested things will proceed as they should. If not, then move on. Too many beautiful women are out there waiting for you.

~w1lly

P.s. - first post yay