I recently came across this post with regards to qualification. I always had an idea of how it works but this post described it as actually a quite simple technique... I thought I'd share it for those of you who don't really know what qualification means....

Qualification:

One of the most important points that you want to get across to women is that you are interested in her for more than her looks. This is because a confident successful man has choices… and a man with choices needs more than a pretty face to satisfy him.

Women are attracted to men that they have to chase a bit and win over. Anything that comes to easily to them is viewed as lower status, and they will likely invest no effort into the encounter.

This ultimately means that you have to let a woman believe that she is winning you over based on the fact that you are sub communicating that that you appreciate her for who she truly is.

As you begin to improve more with women this will come easily to you because you naturally will be more selective about who you invest your time in.

Qualification can be broken down to these 3 steps:

1. You find out what her nobler qualities or just cute things about her are.
2. You approve her then disapprove of the quality
3. You leave her guessing as to whether or not she has won you over.

Some typically taught qualifying questions are:

“What is the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?”
“Who do you most aspire to be like?”
“Which of you childhood dreams would you most like to see fulfilled?”

As you ask these questions you will use her answers to further qualify her.

This is a prime opportunity where you want to implement push/pull that is discussed so much in pickup literature.

An example of push/pull in regards to one of the above questions would be:

You: Who do you most aspire to be like?”
Her: I think Angelina Jolie makes a good role model
You: Yea… I admire women who fight for a higher cause
You: But then again, I dated this really beautiful girl who seemed to be so interested in charitable causes… but then it turned out she was just doing it to fluff up her resume… are you the real deal, or just looking for a bigger signing bonus with your next job application?

What you basically did in that example was reward her for her answer and show her some genuine appreciation in her ideals… but then you took it way and made her qualify herself once again.

By continuing to qualify her throughout the night you sub communicating that you are of high value. High value guys have chooses, which means that their standards are much higher than the average frustrated chump who will jump at the chance to go home with the first pretty girl that talks to them.

The main thing to keep in mind in regards to qualification is develop the habit of screening out girls who don’t meet your standards. Of course, in the beginning you’ll probably be faking it for a bit… but eventually you will find that you really will be more selective about who you will spend time with

thank you so much for that man. that really cleared up things for me!

could you give me one more example? and perhaps explain to me how much to use the push/pull method like you said? iv never used this befor and id love to know how to construct this better

Yeah, good post man. I found that I'm really only half qualifyiong, because the disapproval part and the resulting ambiguity is something I haven't really been focusing on. I'm pretty good about picking out her good/unique qualities, but rather than using push/pull to really make her prove herself, I'll just give her credit. This is something I'm going to focus on more...

Nathan here is one more example:

PUA: Are you adventurous?
Girl: Yeah Totally
PUA: Awesome I love adventurous people. There’s just so much more fun. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done? Don’t say running with scissors....

You give then you take... Get it?

Here is a good post of Push Pull that I read by SINN:

Push/Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you...and, then, emotionally pull her back in.

Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.

To get a sense of what I'm getting at, think, for example, of your favourite junk food. What if you went on a strict diet for several weeks, depriving yourself of giving in to your urge to eat your favourite food? What would it be like to finally give in to your urge and indulge? I'm willing to bet it would be more intense than if you hadn't gone on your strict diet, yes?

We can use these psychological mechanisms without being an A-hole or a Jerk.

The key is to make it playful and funny. Your intention should never be to hurt a woman.

Your goal is to only mess with her a bit. Do this and women will find you charming and attractive.

Here's an example of Push/Pull:

At some point while interacting with a woman I might take her hand and praise, "You have the most amazing smile I've seen tonight...It makes me feel so happy inside!" She'll usually respond with, "Thank you!"

Then I'll count the fingers on my other hand and say, "You know what: actually there were four other girls with really amazing smiles tonight as well. Out of them, you have the fourth best smile. I'm going to call you number four." And then I'll push away her hand. More often than not, women demand, "No!!! I want to be number one!" I'll usually retort with, "Alright, I'll promote you to number three for being feisty."

Do women find this derisive and mean?

Not at all (Note: once in while you'll encounter a psychologically damaged woman who doesn't think this is cute. She is the exception and not the rule. My advice: run away from these types of women, quickly).

Most women find this funny, charming, and playful. More importantly, it generates attraction: the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

Push/Pull is the crème de la crème of attraction tools.