Hi guys I'd really like your advice about this one particular attempt at fclosing.
I'll keep the build up short:
Met her in a bar with Onato and Maestro (great winging that night guys!)
Number closed, built jealousy plotline and conspiracy plotline.
2 days later I texted her and developed brain highjacking frame which she jumped into and said things like "your approach was so different, you made me laugh, can't wait to see you again"
Day 2 was in a really cool wine bar and we chatted for a while and then bounced to another more 'youth' bar. All the time I was playing tight C2 game; Leader of men, protector of loved ones and ability to emote stories plus a few games and DHVs.
The day after she texts to say that she's spent the whole day thinking about me and says "Sunday is a long way away! I want to see you now.."
Anyway Sunday arrives and I have a plan to get some lunch and then go clothes shopping. As it turns out she lives further away from town than me so she offers to pick me up which gives me the idea to be busy putting the washing machine on when she arrives which implies she should come in and wait (thereby removing the fear of unknown about my house). This works like a charm and as soon as I've set the washing machine running I'm pushing her out of the front door because I'm starving.
I took her to a really cool bar which serves great food and has the bonus of having big soft leather sofas which are perfect for cuddling which we do until the bill arrives.
We go shopping and have a quick kiss in the changing area which feels naughty and dangerous at the same time. At this point I'm starting to build in some future plans to help with LMR and pair bonding.
The next bit really confuses me.
We get to my house and she follows me into my house without prompting and put the kettle on. We kiss while the tea is brewing (this is English romance for all you yanks out there
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I take the opportunity to show her the BBC iPlayer on the internet when she says she doesn't know how to use it and we watch some Little Britton in my room. There are no chairs so I sit on bed and tap the side of the bed next to me but she sits behind me which seems strange. The bed is physical and visual barrier dividing my room so perhaps she didn't feel comfortable crossing the semi-imaginary line?! Anyway I lean back and motion for her to cuddle and we hold each other until the episode ends. I now being to escalate again but this time she feels like a limp doll and after about 5mins I stop. I remain cool and unaffected and continue discussing plans for our next meet. Eventually I tell her that I've got things to do (trying perhaps a little too hard to demonstrate that my life doesn't revolve around her). We kiss and she leaves and later that night I get a text saying "We're very different people I think we should leave it and remain friends". To which I reply "Yeah I was getting the same feelings, you're a great laugh and we should hang out some time"
If any of you have an idea about what went wrong I'd like to hear from you.
Thanks in advance.
Mint
CHAT