Hi Lads, I need a little advice.

Let me give you the run down first. I was out for a mates bucks and I managed to number close one of the dancers at the strip club. Don't ask me how I did this but the amount of books I've read on game, nlp, body language, etc in the past month has been phenomenal. I guess its paid off. Now I don't know what to do next.

We've been messaging each other ever since I got her number and she seems keen. This is the first number close I've done since deciding to join the comunity about a month ago. So if you guys have any suggestion I'm all ears.

Cheers
Tonka

Sorry to say but text messaging are for guys who are afraid, you need to quickly transition to phone game and invite her her out somewhere since you are pass attraction. Invite her out to a venue and when you do see her u might need to quickly re-initiate the attraction and u ought to be in comfort with this girl.

Thanks for the advice. I only started messaging her because she asked me to send her my number as she couldn't take it while working. So the messaging carried on from when she finished work.

I ended up calling her and got her message bank. Like an AFC I left a message. Thinking back now probably sounded really lame but she texted back. So I called her and arranged a date.

I'm meeting her on Wednesday for a drink and I'm getting nervous. I probably shouldn't be, as I've gotten this far, but she's a HB10. I hope I don't fuck it up.

i have to disagree with you here.

if you text because you are afraid, then yes that is a bad reason to use text. but times have changed, and girls will usually be more comfortable with texting a guy she just met rather than calling him back, or actually picking up the phone when he calls. if you call her too early, don'y be surprised if she flakes, or sends you a text rather than a call back. once she is comfortable with texting you, she will usually be open to an actual phone convo.

if you do invite her to meet you at another venue, make sure it is a low-pressure situation that will not take much commitment from either of you.

I agree with Sexcellent. It's nice to have a chat on the phone but i think at the moment more people are happy to text until they feel more comfortable with talking. I definitely do.

Thanks for all your help lads. I will let you know how it goes.

And also to add to that I did go for the low key approach and invited her out for a drink.

Text and phone, but mix it up. Generally, your first contact should be by phone, followed by some light texting. Arrange your day 2 with her via voice as this reduces the chance of flaking...it's much harder to flake on a person than a text message. And if you lack for confidence or her for comfort, then more texting is preferred if you cannot meet. If you can meet, MEET.

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Initial text game is ok but if you linger on there too long its because one party or both are afraid to move the relationship further, is what I meant to say.

Thanks Lads,

Day 2 went well. Got lots of IOI's and kino from the minute I we met up. Ended up K-closing. I was stressing over nothing. You've got to love on the job training.

Cheers
Tonka