So Im staying in a very small town for awhile.. about a month and a half ago i started seeing this girl and we clicked great! Well about 2 weeks ago she called me late after her work hours telling me she is back with her ex-bf... this came from left field.. I spoke with her a couple times about what happened and she said she felt more secure and comfrtable being with her ex because she knows and can control where its her life will go... she told me right before this whole thing exploded that "Your the best bf ever" etc.. Well.. I calmly told her.. ok.. peace.. lol

Well since shes been gone I cant get her out of my head... because there was no fight or disagreement.

I got her to come meet me somewhere to see each other.. since i havnt seen her since before she broke up with me over the phone.

I didnt mention anythiong about her bf.. anything about "us" just had a good time at the park goofing off... making her laugh alot... to the point she was eye locking me a lot!!! before you know ti she was up close and bringing her face to me so i could kiss it... she told me.. "hmmmm yeah i think we should get together again real soon"
DAMN IT.. i wanted to steal her back but not be the other dude...

What do u guys think? and or how should i continue this..
Ideally i just want to get her back... I tried to get her out of my head by making out with some random hottie and then pulling a different girl home from the bar last week... she is still in my head! damn it.. LOL

Sorry guys for rambling.. haha

thanks

also to clarify: the reason she had the lact of security is it was uncertain if i was going to leave back to where i am orginally from... lol she told me i had to stay... took me alot of thinking to actually mentaly agree with that idea. After the breakup she asked if i was going back to california now... i said no, my family needs me (which it really does) and she said ok GOOD! She also called me thinking i already got a new gf because some chick bought me from her on myspace:own your friends.. LOL

Anyway more backstory haha///

Sounds like you might really have something going for her and vice versa, I say hang in there show her this security she desires and in time her mind will choose you. What you have is oneitis and to fully overcome it you would have to sex it up with a different girl, but if you really want it to work out just do what she desires.

the clarification happened before TODAY.. the big me going to the park with her... and us kissing and her suggesting another outting... And yes i would say we are both pretty into each other, well as much as she can be into me and still with her oldbf.. lol
I did try to get rid of the one-itus by hooking up with somegirls.. but it didnt work haha... oh well.. i knew i had it bad when i started thinking that it was unfair to both of us... i didnt want to get over it really... anyway... More advice? haha

Hey hands off my girl!

It seems that we all date the same girl, Anna the PUA destroyer... I know exactly what you mean! I had the exact same experience! Let her go, if she wants to come back to you let her. Treat her the way you treated her when the two of you fell in love for the first time, that is all I can tell you. It is your best chance I guess...

Yeah, that is what i was afraid of... No cool tricks here...

Although treating her like i did with out mentioning the pain that i felt during the break up... (we didnt even discuss it) worked like a charm to get her emotions flowing again... but i guess it has to be progressive...

don't treat her like anything.

When someone goes back to their "ex", they are taking a chance. It ended for a reason the first time, so they want to make sure that there is some stability the second time around before they fully commit.

She is putting you on a side burner and testing to find out which one of you will provide the most safety and security. You are not "an" option, you are "the" option. Friend zone her and if she wants to sexually fool around, go ahead. But withdraw yourself emotionally from it - because she made her decision....and it was to lose you.

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Thanks for the advice
Haha.. good looking girls are very scarse in this area.
Going to another town to chill tonight.


Im going to do my best to detach from her emotionally. Usually I dont get attached to much. But she really did one over on me.[/quote]

OK UPDATE!!!
she has dumped the ex again... but now shes very distant.
Its hard to say what exatcly is going on in her head. The kicker is she is having alot of life problems now... she got kicke dout of her house etc.. (she was living with her mom)

She is really confusing me! Friday day i picked her up to go for a ride and she told me that she had plans with her girl friend later and that i had her until 2pm... she ended up staying with me until 8:30pm
The interaction was at first just LJBF attitude. But as the day progressed she would tell me to stop and kiss her... she wrote on my portch in chalk "HERNAME+MYNAME (PEACESIGN)"
haha we took anap together gave her a massage.. etc..
later we went for another ride and i tried to escalate for some making out... she told me she wasnt in the kissy mood.. etc..
back and forth though... i dont know if this is an inner game issue or what... im a little confused on if its me or her...
Big hug and kiss when i passed her off to her friend.. later i saw her friend at the bar, missed her call.. called her back, she was sleeping. Since friday havnt been able to get ahold of her until today. We talked for a quick second.. i am suppose to see her tomorrow morning.. i said i will call her later.. and she said go ahead and call her in the morning when i am gonna pick her up...

Maybe she really does need alone time... or maybe i am just being to needy. I am not sure!

I know tomorrow we will have some time where she will be all doggydinner bowl eyes at me, but i also know that there will be some awkwardness too....

WTF do i do????? LOL

Damn these things called feelings and attachment.


Thanks guys

Damn thing blew up in my face... got a text message this morning from the other dude... "This is **** , i am trying to work things out... if you dont call or text we will be cool" lol i ended up calling later.. HAH NO GOOD!

She talked to me and then he got on the phone.. it was pretty funny.
Threatend me with phsical harm if i called her... but if she called me its between him and her... how thoughtful
Ahh the dangers of theft!
Gotta respect how polite he was about me attempting to steal her back.
For three days she came over and spent the day with me... crazyness!!

Back to the PU life... enough of this drama

At least you've realized it is time to move on from the drama; it isn't what you really want.

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Yep... I went out last night. #-K-close one girl, f-#-close on another... what a night...

feels good to be back!