| Hey all,
Im new here and im kind of in a dilema so i was wondering if maybe you all could help me out a little bit. Ill post the story below but ill ask to please keep in mind throughout what i can be doing better at certain stages and how i can work on it. Here's the story:
There's this chick that ive been curious about since a few weeks into the school year. Shes in a lot of my classes and even though they're 200+, i always look over to see her looking at me, so i play along. The looking went on for at least 3 weeks and my curiosity about her was growing more and more everyday until i finally sat next to her in a small computer lab outside of class, and we seemingly hit it off. I got the feeling that she had been waiting for me to approach her because she seemed pretty excited to drop what she was doing and pay her full attention to me. I played pretty cocky and it worked out. I got to know quite a bit about her, things like where she went to high school and what sports she played and she even had to let me know that as of this year, she does not have a boyfriend and shes pretty happy about it.
At this point i was feeling pretty good about myself, i had balled up and approached her and seemingly hit it off. The days went by with the eye fucking intermingled, but the next time i had the oppurtunity to progress on where we left off was when my roommate(The one who raves about this site) and I were working on a lab all day in our engineering center. She was also working on the same lab and throughout the 6 hours we were in there together, i was flirting pretty hard. She managed to break the touch barrier with a pretty good grab to the upper left shoulder when she approached to ask a question, so i felt i had a pretty good read that she was interested. Her group finished and left shortly thereafter, but from there i felt we had reached the point where we would be comfortable holding conversation outside of class.
The next morning in class, she came and sat next to me and we didn't stop talking to each other the whole time. I was still playing cocky and she seemed to be loving it up. I asked what she was up to that weekend because we had a big football game and it progressed into her taking the initiative and inviting me and my roommates over to her house to pre-game. I subsequently got her number and told her that we'd probably be down.
Come game day me and my roommates got up later than usual. I had gotten laid the night before with a different girl and had been up pretty late. I was feeling pretty confident going up to her house to pre-game and her 3 calls wondering where we were cause we were late also had me at a high confidence level. We get there and i still have the cocky and funny game rolling. Things go really well and before i know it were arm in arm going to get pizza. I dont really initiate things like that so its her taking the chance with the contact and showing shes interested. We get back to her house and im really feelin good, were on the couch together, my arm around her and her head on my shoulder, when outta no where these 4 deusch nossels stroll in and act like they own the place. Apparantly they are her and her roommates friends from high school. I look over at my roommates, they look back and that "lets gtfo" thought crosses all of our minds. Normally we would stay and hold our own because our game is pretty good, but since they were high school friends of the girls it was a special case. On the way out i didn't say bye to the girl of interest and she came running out just to tell me. I walked back and as we said our goodbyes the girls apologized and said they don't really enjoy hanging out with the other guys. They told us that we were a lot more fun to be around and that they enjoyed the night, so i guess the night wasn't a total loss.
Present time its the tuesday after that saturday night and im really confused as to what is going on between us. The day after we hung out i had texted her to apologize for leaving so abrubtly because i didn't really remember too well what happened, i was pretty tipsy and the recount of what happened above is the collective input from me and my 2 roommates. She said she understood and all that, but i think that this is where i made my mistake. I think I may have forfeited my cocky, funny and unaplogetic demeanor to try to come of as maybe a nice guy. Monday i didn't really get a good chance to talk to her. I saw her for a short period and it seemed kinda awkward, almost like she had lost interest in that short amount of time. Today i sent her a text about an unrelated subject and she never responded. I think i may be falling into my old habits of oneing, where i just get a little too interested in one girl and lose my ability to keep the game rolling due to the fact that i care too much. The thing about this girl is that she is seemingly perfect. Shes smart, attractive, athletic, fun to be around and has a lot of the same interests and background that i do. Shes one of those girls that i know i would really like to be around all the time, but i just don't know how to go about pursuing her. If you all could give me some insight into what i can do to keep progressing with her i would really appreciate it. I know i gave a lot of background but i think it will enable you all to get a better sense of where im comin from.
-Confused,
Ballerado
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awsome. never apologize!!!