ok so this is my situation...im a senior in highschool right and there is this junior chick im pretty into...i dont usually see her in school that much but during the week on w/e day in the morning i see her sitting by herself in front of a classroom waiting for the teacher...now i see this as the perfect opportunity to talk to her since there is usually noone around and no group, AMOG's etc. BUT my problem is that she is in the "popular crowd" and me on the other hand am not...im not a loser but im not in that crowd even though im cool wid most of the guys in that group...so anywayz i really have a hard time getting the courage to approach her cuz i get thoughts of "shes outa my league, wat if she tells her friends wat will they think etc"...so yeah idk wat to do and i need ur help fellow PUA : )

thats easy stop being a pussy (not trying to be harsh)

basically you think your worth shit.......need proof???? alright
dude your already putting her up on this pedistial like she is some goddess and your some pesant who is not worthy...

you gotta realize this girl isnt some princess and you have to worship her if you think that you might as well give up cause if you go into a conversation thinking "you are better then me" then thats how your conversatoin will come off as


so start thinking she is no different then you everyone is equal if you approach and within your mind you know she is no different then you you'll go far....

plus why be like eveyrone else who idolizes the popular ones and thinks they are so great.......your being socialized into the thoughts of....she is out of my league.....so find ways to start knowing she is not

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haha thanks dude that actually made alot of sence to me

Good one savior.

i need to say to you that girls like to talk to guys, but you have to be funny, confident and cool. If you see it gets awkward, you need practice. exit when its becoming (if it is) before everyone laughs at you the other day.

but i would say to you to practice with EVERYONE you see, try to be as open and that way you will be prepared for the little challenge that is the HB you prefer.

good luck dude! practice makes perfect.

Ok guys one more question...how should I approach her if when I see her in the hallway she is sitting DOWN against the wall? Just so I don't make it look weird lol

It's been a long time since high school, but I still remember when I transferred to a new school, and I felt a similar situation to you: I was pretty cool with some of the cliques, but didn't know them enough to be in those cliques. On the good side, one of the best ways to do that is to hook up with one of the girls and show that you're the man.

Anyhow, I definitely agree that you should NOT try picking up while she is with her friends - she'll have her back up more trying to give the right impression, and you'll be 10x more nervous. That scenario you're describing is perfect. If you can, is there a way you can set it up so you need to wait there too? Maybe to talk to the teacher as well, or you left something in the classroom and need the teacher to open the door? That opens the door for the two of you to be in the same spot with nothing to do.

From that point, it's like the guys say above: don't buy into the perceptions and treat her like some higher being. She's just a normal girl. Treat her that way, give her a good solid opening, and go from there. I found that a lot of the time, in isolation, these girls were genuinely cool, and in fact were especially cool because they weren't under pressure to "perform" in front of their crew. However, in the event that she's a bitch, hey, you were there to get something and were just trying to pass the time with friendly conversation... Have a nice neg ready and you can leave as the better man (just don't leave right away or it'll seem like you being there in the first place was a scam).

yeah I don't think I can set it up to met her there cuz I don't have any classes in that hallway and let alone that class(photography/art) so I'll just have to approach her....but how should I walk up to her if she's sitting down?

Hmm... Maybe it's time for you to be really interested in taking up photography? Sit down by her and work into your opening that you're waiting for the teacher to ask his advice on a camera and somewhere to take a good intro course? You could also ask her advice... I dunno if that's definitely the in, but I'd be looking to find a good reason to be standing or sitting by her, and this gives you a good position from which to back off or eject if you need. Maybe the other guys have a better answer, but that's probably what my chump-ass would do

isnt it funny the simpliest anwsers always give us the most trouble....

well why not ask an OPINION, simple enough and she is even sitting down

so work into your opening line how bored she must be

im not saying use my line but i might word it like...

hey! i need an opinion really quick and after that you can go back to admirring hte concrete floor..

or hey! i needed someones opinion really quick and you look bored enough that your just about willing to give an anwser...


basically, just go up ask her opinion but dont think of what your going to say before you approach just make it be natural only thing you should be knowing before you approach is the opinion you will use

try something with high school involved...


me and my friend were discussing the other if its ok to break up through a text message?

or me and my friend were talking about the dress code...

or me and my friend were talking about who lies more guys or girls

me and my friend were arguing about this or about that


im sure you will think of some kind of an opinion to ask

just when you approach just make it seem like you just happened to have seen her sitting there so go up and open with the opinion you decide to use and then get into conversation

and dont worry about a number she is in your school you will see her more often once you get that first conversatoin under way then you know who she is and it wont be so hard to approach and talk


questions??

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yeah i got it but wouldnt it look wierd if im like hovering over her when i start talking to her? should i like kneel near her or sit down next to her or just stand up and talk?

yeah i got it but wouldnt it look wierd if im like hovering over her when i start talking to her? should i like kneel near her or sit down next to her or just stand up and talk?

yeah i got it but wouldnt it look wierd if im like hovering over her when i start talking to her? should i like kneel near her or sit down next to her or just stand up and talk?

half way into opening line...

"Hey you should stand up, then it won't look so wierd and you won't look like a tramp begging for money "

everyone is different so this girl might not mind if you stood up, she might not like it if you stood up, she might not like it if you sit next to her...get what im saying? basically its try your luck and see if what you do works..im only saying no anwser you get is gonna be 100% certain

but if i were you id kneel, standing over her may indimidate her and not in a good way.....

...if i were you id crotch down by having both feet on the ground and my ass resting on the back of my ankles...or somehting like that....but thats just me,

you can kneel how you;d like.......and really kneeling is only my opinion, if you feel something else would be better then do that

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Or stop moving to accomdate her, and get her to move and accomodate you.