The benefit to this is that you now know what your issue is.

Are you the baby of your family?
Do you have a family history of Alcoholism?
Are you a sex addict? Like do you need to get off 4-5+ times a day even when you are not in the mood?
(I know they are kinda personal questions, feel free to not answer)

The reason I ask is that it sounds like the attention is a drug for you. You get your fix when you get that attention or that text back. You are happy for a bit, and then become upset once that fix is gone. Why else would you keep an ex around that you are no longer attracted to? I know she is a friend, but it sounds like you do not think of her that highly. She just supplements the fix you need when no one else is around.

The cure? Inner game inner game inner game.... You have to build your confidence up and learn to be happier with who you are. There is something missing inside... You just have to find what it is.

CK

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success is my only mother fucking option, failure is not.

1) no, i'm the eldest and the black sheep
2) nope.
3) again, nope.

as i've mentioned before, i think i'm just really full of shit and actually pretty insecure. inner game needs to get sorted out.
any books?

I don't think it's his fault. She's using the push-pull and he is just the cat chasing the mouse. There's nothing wrong with being weak to the push-pull, we all are. That's why its such a good technique.

I don't think you read everything clear enough. Hx is like that with EVERYONE. This girl in particular just doesn't give him the attention he wants when he is craving it. She isnt playing the game, it sounds like she has a busy life.

Hx, I believe you just have to get busier doing other thing to keep your attention focused on your hobbies, books, working out, whatever it is you do with your spare time. If you make your life busier in general, you will have less time to think about this. At the same time it will build your confidence and help with your inner game.

Its just a co-dependency issue. Google that, you may see books that will help.

CK

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success is my only mother fucking option, failure is not.