Whenever i ask chicks to come to an outing such as the beach they always seem to say yes they're coming a few days before the planned outing, and then on the day before when i double check to see that they're coming they say they "oh i got something on cant make it". How can i deal with this problem so that these chicks stop being flakey toward me? This hasnt happened once or twice this has happened to me many times and it pisses me off. What i usually say is "oh your missing out on fun" or "oh well next time" is that the right thing or should i do something else??

Thanks guys

Are these friends of yours or dates you have planned out? No matter what you are going to get flaked on its part of the game. Something that I have found to reduce flakeyness would be the initial interaction with the girl I am talking to is more in depth. I will talk to her make good conversation, make her laugh a couple of times, find out a couple of things that she likes, schedule out a date ahead of time, some minor touching, etc. If you create more of a good connection you will get flaked out on less, and you will start to realize when there isn't a good connection and not to was your time. Before I would talk for a few minutes get a number then leave.

This has been one of my main problems too. I feel like if you create more excitement about the date she'll be more likely to pull. Make her imagine how awesome it is to be at the beach/flykites/ see movies (if you refuse to accept that thats the worst date ever lol)
I'm excited to see what other advice comes up, cuz I have had this happen to me a few too many times lol

When I was younger, this happened to me a lot too. In fact, there was a point in my life where I was more likely to sleep with a girl the day I met her than get her to show up on a day 2! Here's how I dealt with it:

One thing I always make sure to do with a new girl, is talk about how high of standards I have for people I allow to become part of my life. And it's not just BS--I really do have a laundry-list of character qualities a person must possess before I am willing to invest in the relationship, whether it's with a girl or just a new friend.

So what I do is make sure there is lots of attraction built up, and when I bring up having high standards and she asks about them, I make sure and say something like, "Well for example, if I make plans with somebody and they flake on me ... I probably won't ever take them seriously."

Since adding that little piece in, it hasn't really been a problem because she knows that if she wants my attention she can't get away with playing stupid games.

If a girl does try to flake, I might say something like, "Oh god, you're not one of those weird hermit people are you?" in a teasing way, but I never call her out on it seriously. This took a long time for me to learn because flaking is a huge pet peeve for me, so my natural reaction was to tell her I wouldn't tolerate that kind of disrespect. But trust me, getting pissed about it will only serve to make sure she doesn't answer your calls from then on. You're much better off pretending like it never happened.

Hope this helps.

well you need to build up more attraction or rapport with her. As of now your just an Acquiantance to her. You need to get beyond that. She'll surely wont flake next time. In this Situation. I would just be "oh you're gonna miss out" dont make a big deal about it. Then just text her " hey had a blast you missed out. tell you all about it later". Show her you can ahve fun without her.

there also plenty of other girls you can game if it doesnt work out.

1) build up more attraction/rapport/comfort
2) dont let it get to you when she flakes on you, just be cool about it, tell her she missing out and tell her later how much fun it was.
3) try agian

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