| Hi everyone! I need help with this one.. any comments are welcome.
I have a group of friends at college (about 8 guys and 4 girls). We hang out at least once a week, at bars, clubs, parties and so on.
There is this one girl though, that Im starting to get worried about, because i feel Im getting one-itis towards her.
Besides knowing I shouldnt have one-itis, I've been wondering wether or not I should try something.
She seems to give IOIs, but they are not so clear. She always take me for a dance when we are in a club, for instance. We've already had plenty of kino. She is extra nice to me, whenever we meet (hugs, smiles, looks). But everytime we are at a club or party and a good-looking guy starts talking to her, they end up making out. Last time she went to a party with me, she got drunk and really opened up to me, then, before i had a chance to do something, another guy came and all of a sudden she totally changed her focus towards the other guy, and he got her.
I've been trying to make it clear to her that she shouldnt consider me as just friends. Last time we were in a bar and she said something about a guy being cute, I told her she should keep those kinds of comments to herself. She asked "aren't we friends only?", I said "we are friends, but I dont want to hear that kinda stuff". I think she got the message.
I've played unavaible for a while, and it worked, she started to make efforts to get my attention, she even got a little upset when I overdid it. However, there are two problems to this aproach. First, she is pretty and kind-of-easy, a lot of guys hit on her and she ends up kissing someone. Second, I've been doing the unavaible thing for a while, it is starting to get old.
I need a closure. However, I know I wont be able to continue being friends if I get dumped. Even if i get to kiss her, and she decides she doesn't want to go on seeing me afterwards, I wont be able to continue friends with her. (I'm very jealous). What do i do next? How can I be sure I wont get a LJBF?
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