Hey what's up guys? i'm going to make this short.

I'm hooking up with this really cool girl, although we aren't going out and i stated i have no intention of doing so...we still hold hands and shit in public.

Is this a bad move? I mean she's only like a hb4-5 in body but maybe a 7-8 in face...but overall not HOT. But...she's really sweet/awesome personality/and we "get" each other...it's nice. Am i DLVing myself by holding hands in public....or even by doing so w/o going out with her?

Thanks for reading.

If your not going to be exclusive and all that you might be leading her on in a way to think that. Women think differently than men and it might not be as clear cut to her as it is to you.

I don't think it hurts your chances unless you dont seem confident when with her... you know change in walk because you cant swing arms ect ect.

Imo id hang out with her and treat her like a good friend in public, hug when meeting/leaving but dont give out the whole im not available vibe.

I changed my mind do what ever makes u happy, dont give a fuck what others think. Thats what lifes about, being happy!

do what bambam said.

Dude, that's SO weird, 'cause im in the EXACT SAME position as you. I'm
seeing a girl, who's face is about an 8 or 8.5. She's a Little chubby though,
but she seems to pull it off nicely. Her boobs are PHENOMINAL though. I
thought they would be saggy, ;cause they were so big, but no, they were nice
and perky!

Ahaha okay, too much info

But my response is that it's pre-selection. It doesnt really matter who the girl
is, if you're seen in public with this girl, and she's ON YOU, then you have
triggered pre-selection in all of the other girls' brains.

If' YOU'RE rubbing all up on her, then it will slightly lower your value. Just
always be the one who's getting hit ON, not the one who HITS.

make sense??

thanks for the advice...honestly envy i bet ur girl is a lot better than mine(looks wise).

She has a very pretty face....nice eyes/lips/hair. But her tits aren't nice....no real ass...and she's chubby. Not to mention broad shoulders and big hands/feet(taller than me).

But she "gets me" and on some level that feels important.

Well, bro, to be honest, it's REALLY important to have a girl like that. You
need to make sure that you still have a connection with a girl based on what
she makes you feel emotionally, rather than HOW she makes you feel
physically.

Im not being the "lovey-dovey have a connection guy" but it is very important
to make sure that you have something special with her. Sometimes it's
TRUE; looks aren't as important as the way she makes you feel. So it's
essential to have both: a hot girl who you can bang and one who can make
you feel loved. Fair?


P.S. Here's the girl im talking about:

And this is another one of us together, just to prove she's mine...but this
is DEINFITELY a bad picture of us lol. I don't look high/drunk all the time,
i promise . And it was like at 3 am when we took that, and i looked like
shit. lol but here it is anyway:





But now i'm curious about YOUR girl! hahaha

she's a good looking girl.....i'd say hb7 definitely..better looking than mine i think.

Well...i think my girl's face is better, but you chick's body is MUUUCH better.

Just so you're aware, Posting pictures of someone else on a public forum ( legal term forum, not forum like forum. In this case, it means the internet ) without permission is illegal.

It's also illegal to do it on things like Facebook, and MySpace, but unfortunately, many people are very anti-community, and would take offense to having their picture on this site. It's sad, but it's also the law. I'm just letting you know, so you can make an informed decision on weather or not to keep that picture up here.
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Now, back to the topic at hand. It really depends on the situation. Pre-selection is good. Being needy isn't. Both of these are so called 'attraction switches' that you need to take into account.

My advice? Sure, hold hands. Don't hold hands sometimes. Give her a hug. Give her a high five. Be seen with her. Be seen without her. Everything in moderation. That will keep her into you, but also not make it seem like she's your only option.

Ya dig?

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i took of the pics just in case. even though she knows about me and the
community, and she won't mind.