Hi Guys,

I am new here and to PUA methods all together really.

Here's one of my major reasons for coming here and getting into PUA community. I used to do well with women naturally but then it slowed a little and then a little more till it changed to being in a rut.

Now before you ask if I let myself go, no I did not. I am in better shape than ever and look about as young as I would want to, I just have lost "it".

I lost some close friends and family in very traumatic ways and think at some point became emotionally disconnected, unavailable.

Now I want to get back in to having a strong social life and dating alot. Still get lots of intial looks or flirting in first encounters, here's where I keep getting stuck...

I'll meet a hot girl and she'll show signs she interested, time and time again, so I flirt back and it seems to be growing. Then somehow it always turns cold, to the point I feel jinxed. Sometimes I get phone numbers only to have them not answer or call back, other times I'll wait to build it up and then once we kinda start really making it obvious we are attracted, the next time she's off putting. It's happened with more than a few girls, no matter how into me they seem to start with.

Help I'm an idiot lol

Something in your inner self is off putting these girls, your inner self will always have an effect on your outer no matter how much you try to bottle it up. Try working on your inner self and the rest will come.

How exactly do you work on your inner self?

I seem to have the same problem with my "inner-self"

I'm far far far far far from an expert, so take this with that knowledge..

but it seems to me you just need to re-evaluate yourself and develop yourself into an alpha/dominant male once again.

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16 years old and looking for help.

Well there is a really easy way out of that really, just take some psychoactive drugs and create yourself a new permanent perspective of things by laughing for the rest of the evening (Yes, even though it was a joke it really DOES work, but I don't recommend to try it...)
Cat-string theoryy HELLOOOOO?! You have to be the dancing rope infront of the tiger!
I say that its your sadness thats ruining your game. Considering the reasons of the sadness, I say you should get to a psychiatric nurse.

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There is NO secret ingredient. Theres just you.

Yeah maybe it is my sadness, although some girls really threw themselves at me after some of the trauma but I purposely put them off at the time because I was out of it, very traumatic stuff.

I am looking into some therapy but I want something that works, not just talk.

I am a pretty dominate male to be honest, almost more than needed to attract girls. I still have the confidence of all the girls I have pulled in the past and all the looks I get daily, often overt stares and signals. I workout and have a great build, great hygiene but maybe I just lack game anymore. Deep down I wonder if I have any real confidence left...

Shit I hate to think I am like that HS Jock who peaked and somehow lost it, although like I said earlier I have not let myself go at all.

Any books or clips to rec?

Reading your post, I can see that you are spending your time thinking much in the past. Too much.

You need to wake up and live happier, more energetic and be funny. Then you have your game back.

Wake up.

...And check out:
Vin DiCarlo - Attraction Code

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There is NO secret ingredient. Theres just you.