I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible...

A few months ago, my band just got off stage at a festival and this girl (HB9) who I haven't seen for a few years walks up to me and starts talking. After a few minutes of convo, she tells me she's leaving for a few weeks for basic training with the army. I got her number and told her I'd call her when she got back.

Anyway, when she came back, we went out one night and had a really good time. After some talking and kino, etc., we moved on to the next pub and I held her hand on the way there, etc. Things were going fucking perfect that night. While we were chatting a few people came up to me, aksing how the band was, etc, which worked really well with her as it made me look good.

The next day, I called her and said, "I hope your hangover isn't as bad as mine! Last night was awesome." We laughed and joked about the night before and both agreed it was a good night.

A few days later, I called her and asked if she wanted to go out the next night, she agreed. A few hours before we were supposed to go out, she text me saying, "I'm going to be a bit late. Sorry. I will text you when I'm ready". I didn't reply and she never text me to let me know she was back. I guess you could say I was pretty pissed.

Anyway, she went back for more training (Phase 2, or something...) two or three weeks ago, I text her saying something like, "How's training going? Hope they're not working you too hard!" She replied a day or two later with "general" convo - asking how I was, etc.

Last Monday, she rang me at around 6.30PM, totally out of the blue. I didn't really know much about PU, etc., and was just generally being funny - joking with her and stuff, she sounded like she missed me.

Anyway, a few days passed, some more messages were sent then for some fucking stupid reason, I decided to ring her this past Saturday when I was drunk as fuck. I don't remember alot of the conversation, I think I was just telling her how busy I've been and told her about my new tattoo I got. After a while, she said, "Anyway, I gotta go. I'll text you tomorrow." Bad way to end a call, I know.

The next day, she didn't text me at all, so at about 7PM I texted her saying, "Too busy to text a rockstar, eh? I'll let you off this time ", she text back an hour later saying, "Hey, hey! I wanna be a rockstar! X" So I waited a while and sent a message saying, "I'll have to teach you the ways of a rockstar when you get back then, won't I? It's going to be hard work... but I'm up to the challenge. " Which I thought was a pretty cool neg.

She hasn't text back yet... I don't even know whats going on anymore. I'm new to all this stuff. Help would be greatly appreciated. I'm determined not to let this one go.

She's still training for a few months but comes home every weekend, how do I keep her interested until then?

Okay then... no replies so far. Should I just not attempt to contact her until the weekend? Should I text her tomorrow? If so, what should I say? I think my text of, "Well, I'll have to show you the ways of a rockstar when you get back, won't I?" may have been a bad move because it shows I'm waiting for her to get back.

At the moment, it seems like she's in control and it sucks. I want her to fucking miss me. Not sure how to go about doing that though...

You are not beeing a challenge to her. You are showing signs of neediness. Not good!

Sounds like you are lowering your value chasing after her by rewarding her lack of attention with more of your attention. The challenge is not yours but her's.

Your neg is good except for the: but I'm up to the challenge; part.

It would have been better: you think you are up for a challenge?

Don't stop sargin and connect with other girls while you are with this one... Get out and do cool things and next time you two talk tell about your adventures and what a good time she is missing...

Thanks for the reply, man. I agree with me sounding too needy and I've learnt not to be.

So, how do I turn the tables and make her chase me? I doubt she'll text/ring me anytime soon... maybe in a week or so if I don't try to contact her. She fucking knows I'll try to contact her, she's too fucking good at stringing me along. I need to get off the string and attach it to her, but how?!

I'm actually thinking about giving up soon. I really don't want to, she's an awesome girrrl and can have alot of fun with her.

Seems to me that I'm coming across to her as too needy, etc, so today's the second day of the freeze-out. Going pretty well, been sarging a few HB's, nothing serious, just enough to get my confidence up for the weekend, which I'm really looking forward to!

I've told some of my friends about PUA and they think I'm fucking nuts. I'll show 'em!

just dont talk to her while shes in training give her the girft of missing you. I know at times you and this is also true of me get tempted to text her just to say whats up.. but if you cant see her then whats the point, keep her guessing whats going on with you.

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just dont talk to her while shes in training give her the girft of missing you. I know at times you and this is also true of me get tempted to text her just to say whats up.. but if you cant see her then whats the point, keep her guessing whats going on with you.

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Yeah, definately true. She's back this weekend though, should I call her or just completely ignore her all weekend? I guess that would be pretty good as she'll probably think I don't give a flying fuck but... could it back fire???

I was so close to texting, and even more tempted to call her today when I saw her son (he's about 2) at work and say some shit like, "Saw *name* earlier, he definately has your eyes". But decided against it thinking about it more... she may think I'm a fucking weirdo or something.

Man, it's like being a fucking kid and having a situation where you want something but you can't have it and it is doing my head in.

I'm still new at this but something I would do if you know shes back is call her up while at a party or something and invite her to it. But cut the call short when you are "interrupted" by another girl who wants to dance or something.