A girl at work e-mailed me today.
Previous interaction: I organise the nights out here. A few months ago I was promoting an event.

ME: Are you coming tonight?

HB10: No. Are you going?

ME: I organise this stuff so I will be there.

HB10: If you are going to be there, then I will come!

At which point I was called away to assist a colleague. I should have got her number "in case you have trouble finding it", but didn't. She is new to the UK and doesn't know her way about, she didn't go in the end.


Then, today she sent me the following e-mails:

HB10: Morning Kowalski, Is it possible please to change me to home movers s line. I have been on general since Thursday now and Saturday was the worst. Can you swap me for someone else please. There is loads of people that been trained. I cant take it any more on this line.

ME:Hey HB10, You’re so dramatic. What’s your PIN?

HB10: Its 806251. I Love You. Thank You Thank You Thank You

ME: Wow! You hate it that much. I hate all work, so don’t really care what I’m asked to do! (Just trying to keep the interaction alive)

HB10: I never said I hated you. If anything it’s the other way. Thanks for changing it for me (English is her 2nd language)

What do you make of today's interaction? What would you reply with?

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The girl sees you as a friend and nothing else. If she was interested in you, she would have shown up at the event and/or asked for your number in case she got "lost" to the event. The fact she did neither says to me friend and not interested. As far as what to reply with I would say something along the lines "just so you know this time its free but the next time it will cost ya".

^^^this

EDIT:
answer: "ok, i give you a chance to make it up to me. meet me at ..."
on the other hand, never put your pen into your company's ink.

I didn't think her not coming was that big an indicator.
She doesn't know the city, or too many people here.

Maybe you're right. What does everyone else think?

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Mr.BoomBastik I have thrown down your response.

Will keep you posted!

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OK, here's where we are.

ME: OK, I’ll give you a chance to make it up to me. Meet me at Prohibition this Friday.

HB10: Ok but don’t know where that is plus I’m working till 8


So what do you think. What's a cool thing to say now? Shall I move it to Saturday?

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Yup.

she said in her womenly way 'i really like you'

her ioi couldn't be any clearer mate!!!

Respect to ming the agreeable!

That's what I thought. Always good to get a few extra opinions I'm still in the early stages of re-calibration.

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you could mail her a map! or send her the postcode & a link to google maps!

should you? dunno. is there a reason? i mean she basically said yes and that she is not free until 8, so why postpone?

my answer would be like that: "ok cool, we can chill out after work then. i pick you up so you wont get lost, lets make it 8.30 because i have some stuff to do myself before and wont keep you waiting"

reason i would pick her up is that i recently found out that women really like it. it is not a needy thing but rather manly and it seems to give them a feeling of already being together and safety.

and i might be there at 8.40

she could be an easy "target", alone i a foreign country, friendly feelings for you, prolly all you have to do is stay relaxed and have fun with her. and i wouldnt force anything that evening, it is more for getting connected and rewarding her IOI's. subtle kino is mandatory, cube?, stories, trying to get to know her, showing sexual interest without pressure. date2 will be easy then. but that is just my take cause i prefer to build attraction slowly and take what she is offering. on the other hand i was in a similar situation once. she from another country, me "showing her my hometown", we pretty quick found a cafe to have a talk and while i was telling some stories about vienna i was so fascinated by her cute neck that i almost unknowingly started to stroke it very gently with my forefinger and that really turned her on. although that afternoon nothing did happen, it really rocked on date2 (she had a very cute ass too and a boyfriend she cheated on with me after being a week in my country, lol). from this i learned that simply saying and doing what is on my mind without putting pressure on her is not the worst idea.

since it came up that she might like you: well she might, but everytime you give too much on what she might think or feel in order to calibrate your actions accordingly, it messes up your mind in my experience. on the other hand generally assuming that she likes you until there is strong reason to think otherwise is a good thing, but reading signs and guessing means trouble.
never lose sight of the big picture, that is you and her already being together, that makes things way easier. just my2c. hth.

Thanks Mr BoomBastik, I'm loving your words.

When I re-read her e-mail I saw that she is good to go on Friday. I guess it's that thing where if you say "blah blah blah, but...", your subconscious ignores what came before the 'but'. I try not to use the word myself.

The thread of e-mails has continued with number exchange etc. She has just asked what time to meet, so will def. say I also have things I need to do and meet at 08:30ish.

I don't own a car, because everywhere I go is within walking distance. So might get her to come to mine briefly (MM).

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ya, as Sean Stephenson on one of the DavidD Video Series once said: you have to get off your but(t), to get things going.

she knows how to get to your place? if not i wouldn't create another obstacle. this technique usually works this way: you meet close to your flat at a known public place (or you pick her up), but you forgot something or have to leave something at home, and that is why you both get there very briefly (about 5 minutes, 10 at most). just enough to make her comfortable and shred any ideas you gonna rape her. good thing is it puts the idea of intimacy with you in her mind and she now knows she can trust you.

gl with the girl

We went out. We talked alot and I escalated kino. At 2nd bar we kissed. She hooked my arm, and held my hand tight. We both said we enjoyed it, and would like to go out again.
At work today she beckoned me over. We chatted for a bit. I invited her to an event on Saturday. She said no because she is doing a lot of overtime for 2 weeks. Is she flaking? Should I freeze her out? Thanks in advance.

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first i want to stress that it is better to assume the best until you have strong evidence that it is otherwise. she liked you before, she likes you after, you escalated so she knows you are interested in more than friendship, she seems ok with that ...

isn't that great? seems fine so far. now just don't get clingy, have a coffee or two with her during the two weeks (build more attraction here, c+f and stuff), but real date2 can wait until she is ready for it, i'd say. on the other hand something less stressful might be better like a walk in the park or something. whatever you decide, if you leave her some room that could show you are not just after her body, and that can make things much easier when you finally go for it. be aware of the fact that it is all in your mind, how would you behave if you were already together, how would you react. just my2c. (and have a little faith )