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PostPosted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 10:28 pm 
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I've heard of some people getting nervous before approaching, well fuck that, I feel like I'm actually gona throw up if I try and approach a girl i dont know, now if its a girl ive already met, my mind just goes blank, now I know yall get these exact same messages everyday but I feel like I've got alot of potential to be a good pua, any girl I have been with in the past has always tried to come back to me sooner or later, now I've never been a player, but I always got girls...guys i havent had sex in 8 months, before that it hadnt been more than a month since i was 16. How am I getting worse at picking up chicks??


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 10:41 pm 
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if i had a guess it be fear of failure or rejection you dont approach girls because well you dont want to fail or be rejected by them publicly humiliated in your own mind...

seems your fear of approaching (fear of failure/rejection)
is manifesting/lingering and it gets worse and worse im sure you probably find reasons to tell yourself why your not talking to girls, like she is probably taken, im not feeling well, or im not in the mood...
......you need to take baby steps and start over to realize that approaching isnt that hard and that woman wont bite your dick off if you come up and talk to them...

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PostPosted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 10:57 pm 
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Dude i have a really wierd case of AA. I am not afraid of approaching, but my body is. One time i was walking to a club and i know im gonna run game, i felt like i was gonna fuckin vomit. I had to actually stop and go into an alley and wait it off. Also i feel like im gonna vomit after taking one shot of vodka when i just arrive at a venue, im not a light weight, ive drank alot more than that only to feel a buzz. Point is, i barrel through it. That night where i almost threw up just walking to the club, i opened like 11 sets all lasting more than 5 minutes, some 20. The biggest factor i think is practice, no matter how much you read, if you dont practice you wont have good game. But reading helps because what you read gets stored in your memory and comes out at various points during an interaction, but you have to leave the house for that to happen.


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 11:26 pm 
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I never have been but i am so worried but being seen as the creepy guy, how do you stay away from looking that way? Thats usually why I dont say anything


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 11:45 pm 
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really its all in your head, less girls have said you are creepy then its probably the way you come across...id re-evaluate the way you approach

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PostPosted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 11:47 pm 
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do u have any pointers??


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 12:31 am 
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that depends.....is the problem in your head????

or do girls say your creepy??

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PostPosted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 1:20 am 
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head, absolutely, but Ive been around girls a hundred times when they call a guy creepy when they would definately talked to him or more, if in a different place at a different time. So just cus your not creepy doesnt mean there not gona label you that to there whole group of friends.


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 4:51 pm 
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So just cus your not creepy doesnt mean there not gona label you that to there whole group of friends.
of course there not gonna call you creepy right in front of you some will but most wont., but either way no one wants to be rude guys or girls they will talk to you but once you leave a girl will label you creepy of course to her friends.... she will say it to her friends and you wont know

and i believe its this fear of not knowing, that freaks you out.......


but all in your head its more so then just give you a solution i can say take small steps and start from the beginning with eye contact then small conversation to lenthed conversation to get over it..

but i feel its much more then that...there has got to be something manifesting your fear of coming off as creepy...do you know what it is???


if i had a stab at it, id say its not the fear of being creepy but more so you feel your approach will be mocked and ridiculed when you leave and you soon will be embarrased.....that fact that your going to be made fun of after you leave stops you from approaching......

basically fear of failure/rejection...

you talk to girl, and you leave she talks to her friends and says what a loser and to basically sum it up u just got rejected/failed the conversation..


you just dont want to be seen as weird creepy which you already said.......with the addition of everythign in between so it comes down to it that you have AA...

doctor recommends you do baby steps and come to finally see that girls once you leave arent going to turn around and say what a loser...some will but if you do the baby steps and get comfortable enough with approaching and just being confident.....then you will minimize the risk of coming off as creepy with the added bonus of controlling that fear, it will alwasy be there deep down inside you but if you can control it you will be able to approach
you just have to stop that lingering fear and go out and start small with approaching to come and realize the world isnt as cruel as you think...


im sure you have been viewed as creepy once or twice and taht is why you have gotten to this fear, or heard it or what not...

either way some point in your life you have associated takling to girls with they will think your creepy if you dont do it right and now it liingers and prevents you from approaching..


baby steps...


questions??? leave a comment or message me

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that was awesome, period.


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