Dear Chief,

I haven't asked your advice in awhile. Time to change that!

I am sure you know that eye contact is an important part of seduction. The question is, do you vary the frequency and interval of your eye contact with the girl depending on where you think you stand with her? Do you find yourself gazing into her eyes more or less after you start telling her about yourself, and after she starts telling you about herself? Have you ever purposely broken eye contact with a girl to pique her interest in something? Is there ever a good time for prolonged eye contact avoidance?

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Always make eye contact and keep it consistent, regardless of what you're talking about.

Do I purposefully break eye contact? Hell yes! I always break eye contact, especially later on because I'm looking at one of her eyes, then slowly at the other eye, then slowly at HER LIPS, then back to the first eye, second eye, lips, so on and so forth. Triangular gazing increases sexual tension and it also puts ME into sexual state, which ultimately transfers to her and puts her into sexual state since emotions are so contagious. Basically I'm breaking eye contact to look at her lips, and she sees that, which is a good thing.

Don't forget, the alpha male is not afraid of making and keeping eye contact with anyone, any time... but don't forget to put the right energy behind it. You don't want to come off as threatening, but rather you want to have a feeling of warmth and dominance. Vin DiCarlo calls it warm dominance.

If you keep eye contact with girls with the feeling of warm dominance, they'll always be comfortable with it, so there's no need to calibrate your "staring" with "eye contact takeaways" or whatever you want to call it.

MASTER CHIEF!,

where do i begin..well girl in my school, a constant flirt, a virgin trying to lose it. flirting with me alot actually. the only thing is shes a sarcastic flirt, and a wannabe slut basically. she'll say things like "lets fuck, rlouisj7" or "lets makeout" in a sarcastic/serious way. she knows i would, but i know that shes just saying things. my thing is, when she says these things i never know how to act or what to say. on the one hand, if i say great lets do it, she'd shoot me down because i took her bait. on the other hand i dont want to be so stand offish that shell think i'm uninterested. shes trying to lose her virginity but i think shes hesitant 2 f-close me because i went out with her close friend for a year and a half, but that was months ago and everyone is over it. so how do i react when she says things like this?

I would do one of three things:
1. Fight fire with fire by doing exactly what she's doing to you in that same sarcastic/serious way while smoothly escalating kino.
2. Act as if she is trying to game you... and slowly winning you over. Pretend like you're trying to resist her but you can't help yourself sometimes.
3. Run the fuck away. She's a virgin. Stage 5 clinger.

So there is this HB9,5 that was in my school (now she is in another/easier school).
We were together 2 times just for one night. First time we were both drunk. Second time (not to long ago) she was a little drunk and I wasn't and I was playing hard to get (I am the prize etc.) , later we were together again.
The problem: She is really flirty with all the other guys and she have them wrap around her finger! But she told me Im different and that she can't do that with me. And she said that is strange.. How should I reply to this??

She is testing me with questions like: Are you mine? And I reply with something like: I'm yours if you are willing to share me with Tanya and Maya etc. A lot of times (actually all the time) she is acting like she is really interested in me etc. Is she just testing me? I think not.. but i think If I show her to much interest, she will lose interest in me.
I told her she can't have me so easy and that Im hard to maintain, and she said something like Maya and Tanya can maintain you and I will have you. So I said haha your funny etc. Later when I told her that there are three things I like on girls (Mistery style) she was dying to know what they were and which one she doesnt have. I didn't told her.
So.. how should I act when Im around her? What would you do if you were in my position? Any smooth lines I can tell her?
Thanks
(Sorry for my english)

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Drop Mystery Method. Forget about "smooth lines." Forget about "acting" a certain way around her.

The secret weapon is YOU, not some line or DHV. That means the most seductive tool you have in your arsenal is sincerity (or honesty, or genuineness). Just stop "acting" all together.

Now, this is assuming that you have your Inner Game together.

Chief,

I was confronted with a situation once, in an extremely loud bar called the Shout House in Downtown San Diego. I wasn't really paying much attention since it was a bit dark, but within 4 minutes of walking in I spotted my target, moved in and did my thing, of course letting her point out the negative environment that did not cater well to conversation. When the music stopped I got my piece in, got her smiling, laughing and actually was hoping for the music to start up again in order to move the conversation outside. The music started back up. I leaned in and said "I can't talk to you in here, I'm going outside." (Of course in hindsight I realize I should have not leaned in, I should have made her lean into me to hear.) Point being I knew I had her hooked, I knew she would follow. But then I walked outside, and realized she did Not follow. So I gave it about 7 seconds before I opened another set, but here's the thing, the other girls showed up about 2 minutes later. Well, everything was great until they both flat lined(more so because I flat lined having my old target with me and my second target). I decided right then to try and get them back inside since the music stopped for about 10 minutes and pivot both of them. My question is whether it's safe to pivot girls you just met and if anything like this were to happen again, how do I handle "two targets". Obviously only one can be the real target, but you get what I mean. Thanks

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It IS a good idea to pivot girls you just met. I believe it's called "pawning."

Is it SAFE to do that? Why in the world would you be concerned about safety here? Trust me, your safety is the last thing you should be concerned about when you're talking to girls. There are bouncers in the venue to keep the peace and police out in the streets to break up shit outside the venue.

Your choice of words tells me that you haven't yet grasped the concept of what it takes to really learn pickup. The more you try to protect yourself, the more you're going to root yourself into your comfort zone, which will prevent you from moving forward. If you want to change a scrawny building into a grand monument of glory, you first have to tear that shit down to its foundation. Fuck safety. Be daring and don't be afraid to destroy yourself to create yourself anew. I'll quote Fight Club, "It's only once we've lost everything are we free to do anything."

As for a situation with more than one target, what you do with that is more of a stylistic choice as an artist. Some guys use jealousy plotlines and stuff to close both of the girls at separate times. Some guys pick one target and just stick to her. Some guys get more creative. Find the style that resonates most with your core purpose. Whatever you do, though, don't make the mistake of indecisiveness. Once of my FRs, "FR: Too Many Targets," details this one time I didn't do shit because I simply had too many targets at one place at the same time lol. I fell into the trap of ego-gratification from all the attention I was getting so my sexual intent was flying all over the place with absolutely no focus.

Howdy Chief, i gotta question for ya bro..and it goes something like that:

i met a cutie on a trip, she was with her friends and so was i...i noticed that she was making eye contact and peeking when i "wasnt looking" anw, i teased her alot (cocky funny)..
we talked all the way back, i guess we're at C1..you know, we got to know each other more..anw, she mentioned that she had some problems with her ex..(now she said ex, while her friends said boyfriend..is that a hint from her(?))
she then told me that she was in a fairly long relation with him, but they had a "huge fight" a couple of weeks ago and that they're not "officialy together" but they are still trying to work on it.. she answers my phone calls, and replies to my messages (maybe not in the most EXCITED ways, maybe its because it early for her)
now i dont wanna be the rebound guy, and on the other hand (there's different fingers:P) i dont wanna get stuck in the friend zone by being there for her all the time (been there too much and i dont miss it!)...how do i go abt that my friend..?

thanks bro

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Have sex with her. Problem solved.

(I think you posted this in the wrong thread, bro.)

Hahah. Okay.

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Hi Chief okay you say advanced questions you might really need to think about this one because its hard and im looking for a really detailed answer lol i have every faith

heres the situation

I'm 16, ive been serious with this girl for a while now at least 6 weeks but we're not in a relationship because shes been hurt in the past and wants time so im giving her space and time, and sat night we went out and she tried to stop herself making out with me to prove she was in control so I took some girl back to mine and well... made out with her on my bed lol, any way apparently she got really jeleous and text me twice etc etc so yeah i pissed her off bad

spoke to her recently and sorted it out although she was really upset and reckons her feelings have changed now ( clearly they havent shes jus saying it) but i said i would take her out to make it up to her, so we went out last night with another couple, she wanted me to pay, but i didnt because frame control and all that.

but one thing is though she wouldnt kiss me at the end of the night, then she text me later sayin " its not that i dont want to but you ent getting away with things that easily im sorry babe dont be in a mood" (she was refering to what happened at the weekend) she got really really jelous about what happened at the weekend and keeps asking me about how i feel about this girl and whats going on. she said on msn last night that she doesnt know how she feels anymore, i think shes bluffing personally because i got a lot of ioi's last night (playing with the necklace, looking into my eyes, laughing at my jokes etc etc)

I was in the alpha role last night I took control, the only thing I didnt have control over was what film we went to see.

no we havent had sex yet.

but shes coming over on saturday night, i said we'd cook dinner together and she could wash up (alpha role again)

how would you progress to sex from there? and also once your making out, what step do you do next? and so on? I've obviously done it but i cant for the life of me think how lol im only 16:P

few things i'd really like to know

your opinion on

-does she like me and is she bluffing?

- she got really jeleous should i play on that?

- what else do you suggest?

- how should i act with her?

- and your general opinion about everything ive just said

I want to be in a relationship with this girl.

thanks for you time dont know what i would do without advice from this forum

Totti_07, asking someone who is held responsible for what they say for advice on sexual topics after telling them that you are underage is not a very smart thing to do.

By the way, teen girl drama is not something "advanced" that you should be cracking your head over. Don't fret.

I am locking this thread for the time being until I get some shit sorted out.

OK I'm opening this thread back up in hopes of improving the site's quality!