I lost my virginity late, when I was 20. It was a well known fact among my group of friends and let me tell you, being known as a virgin is the worst thing to happen to you if you want to lose it. Never volunteer that information, even though the urge to play it from the pity angle can be strong. It is completely the worst thing you could do. If someone askes you point blank, like how many people you've slept with, keep it vague. Say "I do allright." and leave it at that. It took me so long to figure this out but now that Im in the game thankfully I finally have started to do alright. And so can you!

When the subject comes up for me, I say I am.
"Yep, born again virgin!"

This is nice early in the game as well as it's a false disqualifier.

yeah, I lost it late too, just figured out that nobody wants to have his sex life exposed, so if you if tell, other than being a huge DLV people may pick on this subject which will suck even more
even tho they'll think they are just having a cool conversation, they'll be just diminishing you no mather how they talk about

Just cause you don't want to make that information well known doesn't mean you should lie about it, that's just silly. When they find out you haven't slept with anyone, they'll give you an even harder time for lying about it and trying to look cool. The key is just to not be phased by it yourself and let them know you're waiting for a decent girl that you're actually interested in taking that step with.

Unless your friends are douchebags, then they should be understanding and not give you a hard time. If they give you a hard time, tell them I called them douchebags and let them know where to find me, cause they're obviously not real men and they merely judge their own self worth based upon how cool other people think they are and are probably fags (I can say that cause I love gay guys and have a bunch of gay friends) that only sleep with women in order to impress others. Yeah, let them know all of that and then see what they say; you should keep it in mind too, cause if you feel like you have to lie in order to be respected, then you probably place too much value on what other people think as well, not that I'm calling you a douche or a fag, unless you give other guys a hard time about it....

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Yea, I guess lie is the wrong word, as a flat out lie could get you into even more hot water. The best route is to make your history purposely vague, I think the born again virgin line is a good way to step around it, at least until you have a little bit of experience under your belt.

That I agree with!

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bravo well said

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I am definitely not a virgin, and not many women would ever think I would be. This line works well even if you aren't a virgin because you are communicating to her that you are not after her sex, and at the same time being cocky + funny. I used this one last night on a 5 set of girls and it worked great, ended up bringing one of them back to my place.

ya dont let it phase you, even more so in my opinion it could show some dhv if played right.

I still am one and it is known amongst my buddies, though there are a few buddies of mine that are aswell so it aint really as big a deal to people, if anything my mates have a harder time if it is ever brought up because they are generally like 2 or 3 years older than me.
If anyone asks me if I am one and I don't know them then I say "I'm not gonna give an exact number but less than 10." It's not lying because the last time I checked 0 IS less than 10, after that I don't care about them knowing or not because they'll always remember that answer and I can make a joke about it etc.

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if your got that kinda anxiety, use the born again virgin, dismiss it and move on