Hey guys, i've been called this by several girls...and i can't say i honestly dont give a shit if that's said about me if i'm on here inquiring about it. My personality is a challenging one....if someone says something, i'll question them on it, maybe even oppose them and see if they stick with their viewpoint and "why" or to see if they even have a reason for their opinion/action. I guess it's my way of wanting to separate the confident/smart/intelligent girls from all the rest.

Someone who's intelligent will not have "faith"(believe blindly in something) they will have come to a logical conclusion as to why they think such a thing. If questioned about it, they will have their answer in their mind or even be able to take a minute, consider the question, and see WHY they think such a way.

This becomes confrontational and A LOT of girls get pissed about this b/c(my opinion)

- i'm challenging their reality(BIGGEST i think)
- i'm somewhat accusing them of being delusional and completely living their life through what someone else has said
- they probably feel belittled if they realize they really ARE clueless
- It makes them think(probably second biggest annoyance to them)
- They'll realize they are stupid(or that they just don't like thinking)

But in all honesty, the girls that have said that to me are very insecure/fake people....but even so it brings up the question if i should take this approach. I mean, i'm GOING to, b/c that's just how i am and i like it....."quality" people i believe like to be questioned because they want to live a unique life and all their actions are reflected upon to see if that's the best way to go about things.

Now that i have A LLLOOOOTTT more confidence, i may be bluntly sexual(always with a smile though) but it's not really taken too well....

Any thoughts on this? I don't believe it's that "i don't know how to treat women"...it's just that anyone who will have a negative association towards me for challenging them is just mad b/c i reflect the lack of their ideal self, and i show them it. I don't say "you're stupid"...but more like "how did you come across that belief?"...when the response is "i don't know"....i guess they realize the "i'm stupid" and transfer it to me making them feel such a way.

Make sense? And thanks for reading!
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This reminds me of something said in the film "Revolver" with Jason Statham. It goes like this, "Eventually, when the opponent is challenged or questioned, it means the victim's investment and thus his intelligence is questioned, no one can accept that. Not even to themselves." The "opponent" and "victim" basically just means, the other person, whom ever they be. Then there is another long quote which somes up why this is quite well.

"There is something about yourself that you don't know. Something that you will deny even exists, until it's too late to do anything about it. It's the only reason you get up in the morning. The only reason you suffer the shitty puss, the blood, the sweat and the tears. This is because you want people to know how good, attractive, generous, funny, wild and clever you really are. Fear or revere me, but please, think I'm special. We share an addiction. We're approval junkies. We're all in it for the slap on the back and the gold watch. The hip-hip-hoo-fuckin' rah. Look at the clever boy with the badge, polishing his trophy. Shine on you crazy diamond, because we're just monkeys wrapped in suits, begging for the approval of others."

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You shouldn't impose your beliefs on someone else. I am like you, very logical, do not believe in God/faith, but having faith is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes I wish I could be naive enough to believe in a supreme being as it would give me comfort and a sense that I am not alone. Also it would make the concept of dieing easier. You can disagree with people for sure, and give valid points to back your argument if you really feel the need to, but then just drop it.

People believe what they want to or what they were raised to believe and it is a private thing. Christians look at the rest of the world and for the most part do not try to convert them, they just relish in the fact that they will burn in Hell for eternity. If you are so confrontational then you will continue to push people away from you and you may find yourself alone one day without any friends.

I don't think it's to show "how smart i am"....if "I" also want to be questioned and challenged. It's not that i'm trying to lower someone's value to raise mine like a FAKE alpha....i'm just acting how i want to be treated. If i'm being a hypocrite, i want to be told that i am and explained why...so i can no longer preach what i don't practice.

I don't also impose my beliefs on others saying "you're wrong"....i simply ask "why?" ...if someone can't respond with the "why" then i ask them how could they come to a belief without knowing WHY. I'm not only talking about religion although that's definitely within range of this topic. I'm talking about "what alcohol does for you"...."why dislike so and so"...."what upsets you about a situation"...etc.

The responses i usually get are "b/c they are retarded" ..."i see, how come?"..."b/c they are"....."i got that, but why?" ...."BECAUSE THEY ARE!"

The natural human reaction to an insult, is a strive to justify oneself.

I'm glad to see that you are being yourself, in my opinion, the best way to go. So some girls, fake as they are, say you don't know how to treat women. oooo BFD. I don't want you to think that I'm doubting you, but maybe you should entertain the thought that you are coming across as somewhat insulting. Questioning for the purposes of determining the quality of ones character is good. But if several girls have told you this, think about how many were thinking it.

This is a problem I struggled with myself. I learned to bite my tongue, and pick my battles. I learned that I was seen as argumentative, and some thought that I didn't respect others opinions. I asked too many questions, which is annoying. I spoke more than I allowed others.

You may not see ANY of this in yourself. Just be mindful of what others think.