I have a science class with her in college. I do not talk to her at all, we are strangers to eachother. One day in class, I was bored from the lecture, so I looked around the room. I saw her, she was very beautiful; I glanced straight into her eyes. I think she noticed me noticing her; and I might have seen her with the corner of my eye looking my way here and there, but I'm not sure.

it is the same day, I enter the cafeteria with my guy friend; as we are laughing about something I said. While walking, I look around the room, and there she was....I went to glance over at her, only to see her glancing at me first. We locked eyes for a good 2-3 seconds (and I was still initially smiling because of my conversation with my friend who was walking with me).

I broke eye contact and looked down, because I was shocked to see her looking first. Anyways, still walking past her table, a second later, I looked back at her with a closed-lip smile. She wasn't looking at the time, but a second later, she stroked her hair back; and looked up at me. So I am guessing she also broke eye contact the first time, and now she wants another peak ? This time, we locked eyes for about a good 2-3 seconds again; then I looked down again (I'm sure she did the same, it was getting awkward !).

BUT a quick half second later, I went to take another quick peak...and saw her 2 friends (who were sitting beside her, one to her left; one to her right) looking at me ! This intimidated me, so I quickly looked away..and eventually past her table (felt sooo long lol).

Sorry if this is long as hell, but I got a few questions to wrap things up:

1)why did our eyes meet for the 2nd time in the caf ? in other words, why did she look back after our first eye contact encounter ? (she didn't smile either, she just had a easy face to her....hard to explain)
2) why did her 2 friends look at me ? Did the girl say something to them, such as "wow he's cute" when I wasn't looking or something ?

I dont have my Ph.D in psychology yet but not even a psychologist can anwser your questions.....i guess it all comes down to assuming really...

say in cafetria where you think she was looking first well first when we see something move out of the corner of our eye is natural to look...Our eyes only pick up stuff that moves,

so for instance say she was looking at someone else or the time or starring off into space and then saw you turn your head her way she would then turn hers out of reaction therefore locking eyes with you........

maybe there is a hot guy behind you, maybe the clock is behind you....'

im only saying hell its very likely she could be starring at you, but its also very likely your getting eager and thinking she is looking at you when she could be looking at the wall......

anyways im not gonna go into 20 page detail, but ill keep it short saying that an assumption of MAYBE she is looking at me, isnt good enough to know whether she finds you cute or not...likes you or not or anyting for that matter
but i got some help for you its easy, first off if you look at her and she looks your way HOLD EYE CONTACT,

you ever see james bond how he holds eye contact, he squints his eyes A BIT, has a slight smirk on his face, and holds the other persons gaze......that type of display shows confidence...

Your type of look,,, the look and look away once she looks displays non-confidence.....so just practice holding eye contact with a confident look if you must watch a james bond movie where he does hold eye contact...im not saying too it exactly like him im only giving it to you as a visual so you can see....cause i know if i told some guys to hold eye contact they'd be starring having a big ass grin across ther face and be coming across as some kind of chiild molester lol......so we dont want that being you...

and second, once you have intiated eye contact, i want you to wave her over and i dont mean full blown out arm action wave im just saying signal with your fingers hey! come over, or your head where you tilt it in a way that indicates hey come over, you konw what i mean.....

and once she comes over she will most likely ask what you want, what can i do for you, why did you wave me over, why you looking at me, or whatever else.....

just say "you know instead if wasting all that good eye contact, i figured it be easier to start up a conversation" make sure you keep a confident look on your face the whole time with good body language......

but anyways you can either wait for her response, and ask her name or build off what she says....or if she doesnt know what ot say after you said your opening line just say so you got a name or what your name,.....

im sure you get the point any more questions ask me.....and sorry if i left anyting out or made my point unclear is so message me back

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is this post for real? come on man, don't question whether she's interested or not until you've at least spoken to her. eye contact doesn't necessarily always indicate interest. in fact i catch myself staring at people all the time without even really thinking about anything. the point is, TALK TO HER.

Good luck! I'm hoping to see a great field report from you.

yeah but I just don't understand why she looked back up the 2nd time (after we locked eyes for the first time and broke it after a few seconds)..

along with that, I am trying to figure out why her 2 friends looked at me afterwards.

but I know what you mean, even if I got these answers, it wouldn't really help me, and that I just need to go talk to her. But I'm lacking some confidence here, need some sort of insurance that there is some initial interest, or else I probably won't approach.

natual human reaction to look a 2nd time most the time that is..... say you caught someone starring at you and then they looked away once you made eye contact, would a bit later then you tend to look back?

think bout it,

confidence....well baby step it...

first practice holding eye contact, after that practice eye contact, and saying hey
then eye contact and asking an opinion and leaving'
then opinion and a bit of converastion
then opinion to a 6 or 7 min conversatoin......

eventually you will get comfortable talking just make sure when your doing baby step to get opinions that you dont out step yoru boundarys and go for 10's all the time and psych yourself out...

and who says you need to go to her make her come to you..

like i said wave her over

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Man I have same problem as u.Happened to me a lot of times you see a girl looking at you,you look away,she looks away.You look back and see here looking but this time she looks away.Everytime you see her looking now she will look away when she see you looking.

next time you're in class with her go and sit next to her and talk to her, say

something like "i saw you in the cafeteria the other day and i thought i'd

introduce myself, my name is (blah)" Take it from there show genuine

interest and always make good eye contact

I agree with everything that savior said.

I get this problem too but I only get this problem when I'm coming down with oneitis =/.

And about that looking twice thing, I think we humans have a tendency to "double check" because we're a curious bunch and maybe she's thinking the same thing as you too which would probably explain why her friends were looking at you (she asked/told her friends this guys looking at me, does he like me?(just a guess though))

Before I broke up with my gf and lost my nuts, one thing i did that was fun with eye contact was that I used to make faces (funny) at a girl that seemed like she was looking at me, just to see if she reacted and if she did i would talk to her and so on

P.S. If you guys could give me some advice too on my post It would be greatly appreciated
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well probably one of the reason why im lacking confidence is my last rejection, where I f'ed up in and totally read the situation wrong.

and how it started in that situation was also this type of frequent eye contact, so I am more cautious.

I just need to get past all that and just go talk to her, FFS