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This was developed for you guys who are in comfort wit a girl who has a BF. For the people who intend to steal another guys sweetheart and claim her for yourself. In other words, to actually love and respect her. You will have to be in the S phase. You know that annoying phase when she tries to decide between her BF and you.
You my friend is at an disadvantage because she knows him too well.
By this time you have probably ran many routines and calibrated yourself to find similarities with the girl.
At some time she has most likely given a hint that her BF is boring, not tender, etc etc etc. This is true for most realtionships over 3 years old (some even before).
Here goes:
PUA: So whats up with your BF, everything ok?
HB: Well... naaah, we have had some problems (bitching on about sth).
PUA: So the feeling we call love. What it that really. I read a book (I have been trying to understand etc etc) about this. It seems that love is built up by some basic feelings.
1. Attraction
2. Comfort
3. Security/Safety
4. The feeling of being alive
A relationship needs all four to work. Sometimes you are in a relationship that has all four but after a while you realize that your partner have changed so that you have lost one or more (of course attraction and feeling alive).
I would say that in your case, you are still hanging on to your relationship because of comfort and security. And some long lost nostalgic feelings of attraction and life.
Maybe it is time for you to take what YOU need, what YOU deserve!
HB: Maybe
PUA: So Im not telling you what to do, it is your choice. However, remember that comfort and security are feelings that are possible to build with many people but attraction and life has to be there from the beginning.
Etc etc etc.
I have not tried this so many times (you are not too often in this situation) but it has given me some good vibes and I wanted to share this thing with you because to me it is gold.
Intresting and I like the opportunity to throw in patterns
Keep up the good work!