so fellas i have got problem,
to approch new sets is okay, but how can i get girl i have known for like 6 years in school..
i graduated this year and we are friends, but now i am attracted to her, it is complicated because if i would start with comfort building she would realize the changes in my behaviour...
so what are your tipps, ah and before i forget it, she has got a boyfriend and hes an asshole, and i know maybe i should stop this and approach new sets but hey its a challenge...

so how should i start, what should i do or say

any suggestions???
thx
plan

i think you should approach her AND you should approach new sets

PLAN she is already attracted to you....and you know that...

forget about her boyfriend, don't even talk about this stupid jerk!

Haven't seen you today dawg...and today there were a lot of nice sets to approach...

A very common piece of advice is not to linger on one girl for too long. You can't expect to be successful if all you're doing is spending time for only one girl. Know when to draw the line and when you've invested too much time in her. It's hard, but lingering and obsessing is known as one-itis which is not good at all.

Let's put it this way. By the time you can change this ONE girl's mind about you, make her fall for you and then get her to dump her boyfriend, you could've have probably already sarged several other girls. It may just not be worth it.

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Hey dude i have been facing the same problem.

What i thought rational and was advised by other PUAs was that stop talking tothis girl. You are probably in a friends zone. Attraction is like a microwave, it warms up quickly and if not kept up with it cools down even quicker. So even if she was attracted to you in the early years, and u didnt make a move as u werent attracted to her, her attraction for you is probably dead. She already has an impression of u in her mind, as a friend. She will discuss all her probs with u, and how big an asshole his bf is, but she wont be able to see you as a bf. Youve been like there practically forever, and she has this comfort. Take this blanket of comfort away. If your lucky, shes going to realize within a months time that how much she was used to u and how much she likes u and cant be without u. And if your luckier she is not going to realize all these things, forget u(it takes about 6 months). By then you approach other girls, hangout with other girls, hone ure PU skills. And voila appear in front of her after sometime with the new and improved u.

But the chances are that picking up other girls will be so much fun, you'll prolly forget abt her. If you dont, then its worth going back.


:)ciao

First of all get out of the scarcity mentality...sarge other girls she will find you more attractive (social proof) when you are surrounded my more girls...

We say in NLP that if you only have one choice, you are living the exciting life of a robot. If you have two choices, you’re living on the horns of a dilemma. It’s only have you have at least three choices, that you truly have some options

theres a reason why you (the nice guy), are not with her. and her boyfriend (the asshole) is...work C&F game if you wanna win her over, seems like it's the thing she is into

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She may notice a change in your personality but that's okay. Show her your change on other girls first. She's your friend so it would be easy for you to go out somewhere with her. She will raise your value to other women in the bar and you can demonstrate through social proof your ability to garner attention from other women.

The moment a girl sees that you are desirable to other girls she becomes interested. From there she is yours to game. Make sure that she doesn't start talking about her boyfriend though. Use a boyfriend destroyer or simply let her know that you are not her girl friend and don't want to hear about her "guy" problems. One possible boyfriend destroyer to use here would be to find ways to make her boyfriend seem like a "nice guy"...after all she must like him for his asshole qualities so if you present him in a light that is different than how she sees him her interest in him may fade

I have alot of experience in this field, due to two friends having this dielema. (funny thing is, is that each time they talked about it, they were refering to the other one!)
any way.
What I would advise is that with what all of us on this forum do, it might just be a good idea to have a friend to fall back on when you're low or down, which could happen!

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I have dealt with the same problem and the only thing that works consistently is space. You stated that she would notice a change in your personality but that’s a good thing. You just don’t want her to watch you change. The idea is that you spend some time away from her and come back a new man with a new personality. You need to come back and not resemble her old friend, if you want to get out of the friend zone. It is pretty much a fresh start, a blank slate in her mind.
You should come back looking and acting so differently that she can’t help but notice the difference in you. She will inevitablely comment on the changes in appearance and behavior, and that is your queue to start up a conversation about how different you are than you used to be. You must show her in every sentence and action that you have returned a new man, a man she wants to be with. You then can use every and any PUA trick on her and seem to be congruent to your new personality.
She will not reject your change in personality. She has most likely wanted to be with you all this time, but you never seemed like someone she could date. She was basically waiting for you to change, but you never did. You can become the best of both her worlds. A trusted old friend, that also excites her imagination in a way that no non-PUA can.

P.S. I don’t know how you dress, but it is important that you change it drastically. Your personality changes will take time to notice, but your clothing changes will be noticed instantly. Also you must supercharge your personality. You must become very extroverted and outspoken, not to mention confident and fearless in any situation. Remember the secret to winning her over lies in Displaying Higher Value!

id go do what you want and stop being a bitch......if she notices a change who cares