An Oath of Sociability
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I'm fairly new to the game having been in it only a few months. In that time, there's no doubt that I've changed in hundreds of ways, but of all of theese changes, the one I'm the proudest of is my newfound ability to be comfortable when being outgoing. This is inner game, and I'm not saying I dont get Approach Anxietey, but I am saying there's a good way to curb it.
I've heared of a few great ideas
few great ideas on how to get excuses to be more comfortable in making an approach, but what's perhaps the worst kind of AA is the kind where you simply talk yourself out of appraching at all, with an excuse that at the time, you think to yourself is a good reason not to. It almost never is.
The thing that makes this so frustratingly difficult to get rid of is the fact that you dont 'feel' it in the same way that normal AA hits you, but nonetheless you'll find yourself avoiding opening great sets.
This was something that was really slowing my development of Day Game, so I came up with a god way to force myself to talk to people, to open everyone and anyone and to expand my social circle.
The secret to all this is a powerfully simple concept:
Never Eat Alone.
I first heared those 3 words together when someone mentioned a book of the same name, and I thought it was a genius concept, so I took it a step further.
Swear an oath on it. NEVER eat alone.
Ever.
If it comes to it, and you cant find anyone, you start opening sets until you get one that will instant-date with you to get food, or you starve. Simple as that.
Now, some of you will probobally think "
There's no way I could pull that off on a daily basis, strangers are way too reluctant to just up and go eat with you to get it going on reliably", and you're right. If it comes to that, it's really hard to snare yourself a set on the street. The trick to this is forcing yourself to push your social circle to the extent where you'll never find yourself short of people to call.
This is a
huge step to start with though, but luckily there's a neat way around the difficulty curve: at the beginning of this, dont just limit yourself to sets: take anyone and everyone. Make friends with a bunch of guys and arrange to get lunch tomorrow. Suddenley your social circle is larger, you'll have more friends and, importantly, you'll begin to find that when you're out and about, you seem to "know everyone". This can be beautiful
social proofing, and it's always good to know lots of people. Remember that everyone is a valuable social resource: a source of parties, girls, social proof, knowledge and company.
Never underestimate the value of making a new friend.
Now; the good part. After getting into this for a while, you should
push yourself to go further. For one week, only eat with sets. A different girl for every day. Plan it in advance; when you're just getting into this cycle it can be hard to get someone at the last minute every day, so queue them up. If you can pull it off, great! Do it again, next week!
Keep the cycle going, until suddenley you find that going on a different date with a different girl every day of the week is not something unusual or impressive, it's just a part of your life. That's a PuA life.
Always strive for improvement; try filling a week with only girls you've met in the last month. If you can do that, keep it up!
Now you should understand that the best way to do this is for just one meal, currently I'm doing Lunch but I can definatley see Dinner working well too (If you're having a good week, see how you do with Breakfast).
And there you have it; an
Oath of sociability. This has been a brilliant thing for me. I havent eaten lunch alone for well over 4 months now, and I dont intend to stop for the rest of my life. I make obvious notable exceptions when I have no transport or am sick etc, so keep it within reason, but It's a great habbit to get into. I hope you can all take this idea, apply it to your own lives, and become a richer person for it.
Love and Luck,
-Orann 
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