I wanted to post this under online sarging, but I didn’t have enough posts to post there because I’m new to the site.

I have an old female friend from Jr. High that tracked me down on myspace. We both used to be ugly ducklings, but now are both attractive. We used to be good friends, but nothing else. I believe there used to be interest between us, but that was a lifetime ago.

When she found me recently, she was in a relationship, but now she is single. When I found out, I became intrigued and used an indirect opener to start a dialogue. When she responded I dhv-ed and mirrored her a little to disarm her. She is sending me iois, but I don’t know how to number close or arrange a meeting without causing her to raise her defenses. She is very attractive and her last boyfriend hurt her, so she doesn’t trust men very much. She trusts me because I’m a childhood friend, but if I don’t handle this carefully I could ruin that.

To top it off she goes to the same college as me, but she goes at night and I go in the early morning. Arranging a meeting in such a neutral place seems easy, but when you incorporate the time difference, we never really have the potential to meet. A seemingly accidental meeting would allow me to dhv and number close much easier, but the logistics are unfeasible. If I am direct, she will put up her bitch shield to protect herself, even if she is interested in me. In the past I did invite her to a party, she wanted to go but couldn’t make it. I don’t think this was due to lack of interest or resistance. I made flyers, and I found out from neil strauss that if you make flyers people won’t go to your party because it does not seem exclusive.

I know you are all going to suggest for me to neg her, but that is a bad idea. I’m a childhood friend with whom she already trusts and on some level is interested with. All I need to do is dhv and build more interest, because I am way past an opener and negging her could work against me seeing as how she just got out of a bad relationship.

I’m wondering if you guys have any idea how I could arrange a meeting or number close without causing her to raise her defenses instinctually.