I'm hoping to get a lot of feedback from some questions and ideas I'm about to bring up.

There's shitload to date within the community about getting to having sex with a girl, but not that much as far as actually having sex. Before I got into the community I'd have sex with a girl and my focus would be 100% physical.

Kiss her this way, eat pussy that way, squeeze on her nipples like this, etc. You'd think my focus was like punching the code on a PlayStation controller to unlock some code. Sure there was the passion and spontaneity element, but the focus was physical.

Then I find the pickup community. One of the key things I've taken away from this community is that women are emotional creatures. Where a guy can get turned on by physical, a woman is more prone to be turned on by the emotional. With that, I started experimenting with how that carries over to sex.

Dirty talk is one thing as is role-playing. I'm sure we all know about it. But I started looking at the elements within steamy romance novels and soap operas to see what it was that seemed to drive women's fantasies. I started to realize the ideal sex started way outside the bedroom and was basically about the ideal alpha and sexual tension.

Also, nowhere in those novels do you find a scene of the girl getting her pussy eaten out this way, and being fucked with this stroke for this long...rather the scenes play to the senses and emotional part of the mind.

If you're a decent PUA you should already have the alpha characteristics and building of sexual tension in place. So I decided to try and run PUA while having sex. And now I'm looking for suggestions.

One of the biggest things I've been messing with is qualification. I told a girl, "I bet you can't fuck me so good that I yell your name." I was hesitant to do it, but I thought of how most other guy goes and tries to fuck a girl with hopes of impressing her with his abilities. I know in the field this is demonstrating lower value, so why do it in the bedroom.

I've also been trying to play to emotions with the IOI's I give. My theory is that if you give your greatest IOI's in while having sex, a girl will be eager to have sex again not from just how physically fulfilling it is, but also emotionally.

For example, if I'm fucking a girl, I won't say, "Wow this feels good!" Rather I'll say, "You make sex feel so good." Now she is the reason the sex is go good and this makes her feel good emotionally. Don't get me wrong, it would have been good with about a dozen other girls, but that's not what I wanted her to walk away with.

The real area I'm interested in hearing ideas for, is combining NLP and talking dirty in order to pretty much mentally have sex with a girl wherever, whenever. Here's an experiment I've been running with one girl. I'll go down on her till she cums. Then I'll come up and kiss her for a while, whatever. But every time, I'm sure to rub behind her ear and talk about the experience. I'll say things like, "You like when I eat your pussy don't you." Or "When I nibble on your clit, it drives you crazy." Rather than ask, I make statements and wait for affirmations. The whole time, I'm rubbing behind her ear. My hope is to be able to rub behind her ear and almost instantly get her turned on.

Thoughts or suggestions on any of this...

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I like where you're coming from here. There's a decent bit of good information on the subject on this forum actually, although you're gonna have to read through a lot of threads to find it, as most of it isn't precisely well labeled, it just came about in responses to certain questions. Another great source of into is just about anything by David Shade; he has material specifically on dirty talking and phone sex, as well as emotionally stimulating a woman before, during and after sex in order to inhance the experience for both of you.

What you are doing with the ear rubbing is called "anchoring" if you didn't know the term. It can be quite effective if done properly, just remember you need to do it basically when you're stimulating those emotions/feelings in order for it to work, so she's got to be turned on and not just sitting in the after-glow of sex, or she won't be turned on, she'll get relaxed. You can anchor to all sorts of different touches, or even verbal things. David Shade teaches men how to get a girl to cum just from saying, "Cum for me like a good girl!" regardless of whether he's done anything to warm her up physically or not. It can be very powerful if done right.

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Awesome reply. Thanks. Just got his book on Orgasms and am reading it right now...good stuff.

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