Background: I am a freshman at college and I have found a girl whom i really like. She is in 3 out of my 4 classes but there is one problem. She has a BOYFRIEND. Her boyfriend is also a freshman in college and he goes to college about 35 minutes away. They see each other once a week. I think i would be a better match for her than her boyfriend.

I decided that I liked her after the first few days of my classes. During this time, we connected pretty well. We also determined that she would teach me how to swim because she is a lifeguard and I do not know how to swim. After a few days when the weekend came around, she texted me and asked me, " Do you want to learn how to swim this weekend," and i responded by saying yes. This actually never happened because she ended up getting sick for that whole weekend and the whole week after. I did not know what was going on with her until after the weekend. On monday, she wasn't in class, and so I texted her to ask her why she wasn't there. She then told me that she was sick and so i responded by asking her if she want's me to come over so she can copy my notes. She said that it would be great if i did that. So that is exactly what I did.

We have only hung out twice before. The first time she invited me to hang out in her room between classes. The second time was when we studied for an upcoming exam we had.

I also have encountered with another problem. Usually I sit next to her in one of my Freshman classes. But for the past few classes, this other kid has been taking my seat so that he can sit next to her instead of me. At first I did not think of it too much, but now i can clearly see that he is very flirty with her and that he is also interested in her. He seems to know what he is doing so far. During that class, I haven't gotten to talk to her much because he has taken my spot.

What should I do about my Situation???

Please let me know..

Get your spot back in class, you shouldn't have let him take it in the first place. Also, I wouldn't have made first contact after the weekend plans fell through, let her do that and explain herself. Just try and get back near her, tease, kino escalate, etc. before you get put in the friends category (kind of seems like you might already be there).

You may have to AMOG-destroy the other dude.

Obviously this proves the age-old PUA belief that a boyfriend is not really an obstacle. That other guy is gaming her!

I think your best bet is to game her when he isn't around, or take your seat back. Sarge her BEFORE the other guy asks her out. If he's already asked her out, don't diss him. Make him looks like a "nice guy". The kind that practically WORSHIPS pretty girls and tries to get them to like him. Be Cocky-Funny: "Ive seen how nice he is with girls... he will always do whatever you want. The funny thing is, I can be a total asshole sometimes, but they always end up leaving him for me! It's really not fair to the guy." He may seem smooth at first, but she's never been on a date with him. If you do this, get her set up for a Day 2 FAST.

Your BIGGEST mistake was you OFFERED your notes to her so willingly. What had she done to earn your FRIENDSHIP? That may have put you in the friends zone - and you studied with her. I never study with girls I'm gaming - studying is NOT a turn-on, and it definitely puts her in a "friendship frame". There are exceptions, but studying with her twice without spitting some game is a bad idea.