When you enter a venue, in particular a night club, the place can be like a jungle when you first start. There seems like there is no order to this chaos of a few hundred people moving around. Some people are dancing, some are drinking, others are moving around, others are talking amongst themselves, and some are locked in to the bar. The disco ball is going, the lights are flashing, and the music is thumping. You start to think to yourself, "
How can anyone meet a girl here?" It is one of the most intimidating places to go out to, which is why many guys start with meeting people during the day. However, as you may know because of the high number of people there is a better chance of meeting someone you'll like. This is known as a target rich environment. So how can we combat this? How can we bring some order to all this movement and chaos?
Number 1, I want you to realize that a lot of guys stay away from the club because they are so afraid of this chaotic environment. Realize with me now that when you game at a night club the pace of what you do is quicker. You also have a lot of distractions. I call it my shiny object theory. In a night clubs there are a lot of shiny objects to distract your set: Shooter Girls, Dancers, Singers, Music, Lights, Cameras, other guys, and even other sets. If you can learn to control a set in this environment at such a quick pace, just imagine how easy it is going to be during day game with a much slower pace, and less distractions. Don't give up to easily on this.
At this point, I should hope you know about sets. A set is a fancy name for a group of people. Sets can be mixed with men and women, or all one gender. As you are probably aware the majority of the group sizes are 3 sets that you will see when you are out. Learning to approach groups is key, as women of beauty are seldom found alone. Singles, 2 Sets, 3 Sets (Majority of all groups), 4 Sets, plus. Something that I naturally do when I get into a venue is when I look around, I also look at the sets of people that have formed around me. One courtship guru suggests mentally drawing a glowing white ring around each set. If you see three girls at a table, mentally draw a glowing white ring around that group, for that 3 set. As girls walks past you, you have to decide is she a single (alone) or is she part of a bigger group. All you can see is she's alone so you put a glowing white circle just around her for now.
The guy hovering near the first 3 set you saw, is he a part of the group and talking to them? You can only do the best you can with what you see. A solitary white glowing circle goes around him. You do this for the entire room. At first I did this consciously, now I do it sub-consciously. When you do this, you start to bring order to the madness, and see how the groups form. This just takes practice. Just like driving, when you first started driving it was awkward and you made mistakes. Now when you drive many years later, it's all mostly automated responses, which is how it is for me now.
Let's put this in practical experience. We'll go back to the 3 set of girls at the table that you saw earlier and made a mental note of. You know that guy is hovering close by. He may be part of the group or maybe not. You have a split second choice to make. You can either go into the group as it is to talk to them, or wait. Better to go right into the 3 set, start a conversation, ignore the person you are interested in, and speak to the people in the group your not interested in, and win the approval of the group before he gets back. If he is part of the group then later, when he comes back and all the girls already likes you he's going to go along with the group.
Just for argument sake let's say that you wait. You open a group that is now a 4 set with 1 guy in it. Your tactic changes slightly. Now when you start your conversation you should focus on him and making him comfortable and your buddy before proceeding. This way you are not taken out of the group by him. If he doesn't approve why would he let you continue to talk to his friends. This can be intimidating for many people new to group theory, but it can be done. As you can see going in right now would be a better and easier option.
Gentleman, if you are to use the game metaphor this stuff is chess it's not checkers! You have to strive to think a few moves ahead of the rest, and become socially savvy. The next time you are in a venue, get your drink, hold it low to your waist, and hang back. Take a minute or two at the bar if you want to make notes about the different sets. Look and see who's with who. Organize it in your mind like a blueprint, and then work the plan. Move from group to group talking to everyone. While in the groups stay aware of the sets near you. Spend more time in the sets with the hot girls obviously and less times in groups of guys. Then when you get better and you want to merge sets, it becomes much easier. That is for a different post.
CHAT