hey mates. i have a difficult decision to make. any input would be great. this girl and i are working abroad in another part of the world for 2 different companies in 2 totally different fields. we've known about each other for over a year but just couldn't manage to get together because of bad timing (ie. i was with someone else....she was with someone else, i left for a while and then came back ect ect)

we finally managed to get together and it's been great so far even though we haven't even had sex yet. we're starting to get closer but both of our contracts end in a few months so the future is uncertain.

now...here comes the tricky part. i've just been offered an incredible opportunity on the other side of the world with my company that would have me leaving in 2 weeks (for 3 months) if i choose to accept it. this is something that doesn't come around too often and if i choose to accept this assignment my career is set. when i'm done i'll be able to demand the salary i want and the working conditions however i'll most likely be loosing her. our homes are in different parts of the world and i'm certain i'll never see her again.

so what i'm asking is.......should i accept this assignment or turn it down and see what happens with this girl? my work will always be there but she won't. am i stupid for even including her in this equation....because we haven't even had sex yet or talked about the future?

your opinions or personal expierence would be appreciated
cheers

Women come and go. Great job's don't.

Take the job, this is an obvious choice man. I can understand you really like this girl, but it's sooo uncertain what might happen if you're not already in a very close relationshp with her for a very long time. Take the job, you might be upset leaving her for a bit but think about it this way, you'll be a lot better off.

Also women are abundant. Too many beautiful/lovely girls out there to give up something scarse for.

If you can't honestly say that you want to marry her, then take the job. Besides, with modern technology you two can stay in touch over the internet in dozens of ways.

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Take the job man.
You might even want to tell her that you are leaving in two weeks and you wanna spend some time withe her and have blast before you go. Try to make her give you a good time. Maybe she'll give you a good by F#$% lol. DO NOT TELL HER that your thinking about not taking it because of her. Besides you don't even know if your in love with her. Here's the beautiful thing I don't even know where your going but I know there are beautiful women there so go and fall in love with one of them lol
Serioulsly, Good luck.

thanks alot for the input mates. i ended up accepting the job. i haven't really known her long enough to be certain about our futures so i decided it would be too much of a gamble to stay.

thanks again
cheers

yeah yoru right take the job, woman will be there

my java teacher turned down an oportunity for a project in the government of haiti that he would literally receive MILLIONS...yeah, by now, he would be a millionaire
now he's being teacher working 4h to get 2500 reais...

he was married and thats why he didnt accept the oportunity, he had car, was paying an apartment he had a lot of stuff... when the women left him he just partyed all the money and things he had


so, take the oportunity..
also, the girl would lose interest if you didnt take the oportunity because she probably would take oportunity too...kinda of a trap

MOB man, that's it. Make enough money to be able to see her again if you choose to.

Gotta be the job man, although im sure on this type of forum the opinion may be a little biast.. its your decision at the end of the day!