Hey PUA's

I have gone over a million "friend zone posts" but still need advise, not sure if I am even in the friend zone.

I met this girl through friends and we started off as friends, then we hooked up, and it was on,off for 3 weeks at the beginning where should would say "she doesn't know if she should be hooking up with me" and then we hook up the night after.

Made a AFC mistake to ask where things were going :'( She said she had a lot going on etc, then she ended up asking if i wanted to be with her like 2 weeks later (when she was drunk) I said, "i would rather speak about it later" but it didnt come up again

She happened to go away for 2 weeks and heard some rubbish that she thought i said about her and claimed she didnt want to be together because of it, she ended up apologizing after i made it clear she was mis-informed.

When she got back she claimed she really liked me but is confused at the moment but doesn't want to lose me, I claimed she is probably going to have to deal with it cause it is most likely going to happen ( I was having a fling with someone else she knew about it... I wasn't interested in the fling... which has now ended)

4 weeks have passed, we are now quite friendly, she comes onto a MSN everyday to only speak to me as she has no other MSN contacts. She invites me over for coffee pretty much everyday now as its on the way to my work and tries to make plans with me every weekend.
I try my best to not be too avaliable and tell her im busy and cant make coffee 70% of the time, see her once on a weekend and avoid her the rest of the weekend saying that I got things to do and I might stop by but never do.

When we are together, we are never alone and she is not very affectionate, my kino building isnt very good and she has seen me hook up with 2 girls since this ordeal :'( Problem is the more time i spend with her the more i liker her. She has told a friend of mine who i met her through that she really likes me recently but needs to sort herself out.

How should I proceed, should I avoid the MSN conversations, should I see her more/less and HOW DO I NOT FALL INTO THIS DREADED FRIEND ZONE OF DEATH!! How do I build so much attraction so she cant help be with me

any advise would be INCREDIBLE appreciated

tl;dr

but how to not fall in the zone is merely time and attraction, if u build a good amount of attraction and u dont wait tooo long then it should be fine. but if u do then u may be screwed

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My one-itis with this girl was eating me so I made a move, we kissed for a bit then she stated she doesn't have attraction to me and sees me as her best friend!!!! Said i'm not going to hang out with her cause it will be self destructive and I will probably liker her more. She cried...

Thing is her friends are my friends and we hang out a lot so I will most likely see her. She tries to come on MSN to contact me still... I don't know how to proceed... I don't want to be her BF!

Should I ignore her for a while... Have I lost this one... PLEASE ADVISE

lol
dude u fucked up

sorry but u lost this one

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:'(

Anyone got any sort of advise?

Read some posts about how "there is no friend zone" how would you get yourself out of this one

have her as an escort for social proof and dhv yourself to other girls but when a girl falls into the friend zone that deep its no going back pretty much

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It sounded like you were a little too stand-offish and you let things go, but that's from what I gathered. When she was in the "oh I dunno" mode you didn't Alpha her into moving past that stage.

I agree w/ the above poster. If you're ABSOLUTELY going to be seeing her no matter what your relationship with her is,
Use her as a good source of social proof and as a way to meet other girls. But this also means you CANNOT hook up with her anymore cause girls talk to girls, and you really don't want her to be telling her friends (the potentially new girls you could be meeting) that she has a thing with you. The best case would be for her to give you that social proof and have her there as a testament to your Alphaness and Suaveness.

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