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I know this sounds like a pritty dumb question, but last night i numberclosed this HB8, and i was wandering if it can be counted as an IOI.
If so, then i have 2 def. IOI's
I'm going to be the nice J. Smoooth for a moment, and say "Yes."
Now I'm going to the the realistic guy I am. Here is the deal there is a list of IOIs that you can look at to see what all else you are missing. Sinn (The Featured Poster Guy at the top with the picture) said this the other day and I thought it was a great post on something I wrote.
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Couple quick points, before I go back to watching Tupac Resurrection.
1. Be conscious of but don't look for IOIs. A lot of guys look for IOIs because they've become accustom to getting IOIs to go into state. You must be able to get into state even whilst getting blown out or you risk becoming reaction seeking.
2. CJ my wing once said something super profound to me. He said " By the time you notice 1 IOI, she's thrown 10." Girls are very subtle. Things like hair flicking, lip licking, eye contact can make her feel like she's throwing herself at you. And if you don't respond fast enough with your IOIs, you risk losing the set....
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Here is a large list of IOIs for you to review. There are more but this gives you a great idea of some.
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*She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she reapproaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, intereact with you, or have isolation with you
*She mirrors your gestures
Passive IOIs
*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistence to avoid feeling like a slut)
The most important IOIs to look for are:
*She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
CHAT