Hey Guys,

Need some advice. Heres the deal: Met HB9 at a bar on Sat. Called her Sun afternoon. Left voicemail. No return call yet..here it is Tues night. BS, if you ask me...but anyways, what Im thinking, is that I want to send her some kind of follow up text message either tommorow or Thurs, if I still dont hear back from her. I want to say something kinda asshole-ish/response provoking.

So the questions I have for you are:
1. Is the text message an AFC move?
2. What to say?

All I could come up with so far was: "Hey, I know we met in a bar but I thought I was at least entitled to a return call" or maybe better, "hey, didn't realize you were too cool to return messages when I met you this weekend"

Thoughts? Would any of you all take a different action?
Thanks guys!

Stop trying to nitpick unimportant details, realize you caused her to not be attracted. Don't look at it as a failure, just a learning experience.

I think you called to soon initially, you got the n-close so you did something right on saturday. I wouldn't try again until the weekend, and definately STOP THINKING ABOUT IT, you are "putting the pussy on a pedestle" (40 year old virgin) to borrow a quote !!! I always liked text messages when the relationship becomes more personal, but thats just me.

Yo Mister,

Thanks for the input. You know, what was particularly frustrating to me about this one, was that she offered up her number to me at the end of the night. I didn't even have to ask. I just figured that she would likely have wanted me to call, since she did that. Additionally, thats why I didnt see a need to give it the 2-3 day rule, which I kinda think is bullshit anyways...

I talked to a girlfriend of mine tonight about it also, and she said try texting her something like, "hey, I just figured I would try texting you, just in case you had larangitas this week."

Still trying to convince myself that this move doesnt shout CHUMP! Hah...anyways, would you try another ring on the weekend if no text? Or just cut losses?

Happy Sarging Dudes..

It does show insecurity as you're effectively showing in your first examples that she hurt/upset you.

Just saying something simple like 'hey, didn't hear back from you...' then maybe give her a chance to meet you somewhere.

Just because a girl gives you her number doesn't mean shit. She might have woken up and changed her mind, or one of her friends might not have liked you and convinced her not to hang out with you. That's why I am an advocate of what I call date-close. It was one of the PUA's that got me onto that, by getting her to agree to a time and place, she can't just ignore you.

Yo Mag,

Date close...hmm...thats a good idea! Have you had problems with people being non-commital in the heat of the moment, or have you been burned with flaking a lot after the fact? Just curious if you have had some stats as to that tactic being more successfull than not...Great stuff tho!

-Stamp

What I would do is just say something like "Well you are a shy one!" and laugh it off, then settle a day 2.

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