| Hey guys , i've been casually checking in on this sight for a few months now. Still don't consider myself a total newbie. I could really use some help.
Ok basically its a work-place thing. 3 of months ago started working a new job in an office where i met a HB7 or so. She started sending few IOI's my way (smiling, couple of attempts to flirt/feel me out) but i try to stay away from taking chances like that on the job. So i kind of ignored them. Then she went as far as to try to make me jealous using one of my co-workers (normally i'm extremely dense to those sort of things but it looked obvious here) i was flattered as hell that she would go that far so i caved and decided to just go for it.
Walked her to her train station which led to us going to lunch a couple of times. We got to know each other just a little tho. I gave her attention, was generally polite but tried to balance it out by negging her a bit, some C&F here as well. Turns out she has a little boy at home which would normally bothers me as im usually repelled by chicks w/ kids, but i thought about it, tried to be mature and sent her the message i was ok with it. Things seemed to be going ok however took a turn. She started ignoring me a bit (i didn't freak out like a wuss, i kept my cool) then she started blowing me off when i asked her out to lunches. Didn't know whether or not it was rejection, bad time of the month, or some weird shit-test to see if i was clingy. Figured i had nothing to loose so i asked her out; just to get closure if anything and i got shot down like a F-15 over north korea. Ironically she did it by telling me she doesn't do the whole workplace dating thing, which i believe is BS because she encouraged me in the first place. I took it as best as i could and reacted almost as if i agreed with her and we decided we would still go out on lunches together here and there as friends.
Problem now is, i'm at work so we encounter each other here and there and i'm pissed at her for making her decision after spending only so little time with me, but to go so far as to toss "i don't do the whole workplace thing" my way (which was my own line in the first place) back at me...
I'm aware that technically she didn't do anything wrong. i'm still drawn to her even tho i sorta hate her for that, i'm still very attracted which sucks lol. OK The protocol here is simple. Don't be such a pussy and assume you can slowly get close to some chick that KNOWS she can have you, just say f*** it, take the rejection/learn and move on. However in the meantime (or at least til i meet someone else) id like to know if theres any way to put her in some situations for her to get to know me without making myself look anymore desperate than i do. she's gonna assume that i'm still into her if i try to put myself around her. Its tough because only once a week to we get off at the same time and our break-time fluctuates so we have to arrange it to happen. We wont just bump into each other.
Id like to get something going here, or at least like to f*** her if thats as far as it goes. since she may not be interested in dating but i reckon she's still attracted to me on some level. I was thinking of maintaining friendship/ doing what she suggests and going on breaks together. Getting her phone # and slowly easing her into deep conversation. showing her more sides to me. Sound like a decent plan? Any ideas on how can go about this?
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