So here is the deal: A few months back, a friend and myself both told each other that for a while, we had really liked each other. Problem was she had a boy friend. For a while, we were completely unsure of what to do. She is actually a very emotional girl, even for girl standards. She has always been bad with breakups and can't seem to let him go. We kept trying to kill the relationship, and did everything to stop it. However, it just got worse every time. We went from being attracted to each other, to falling in love with each other, to the point where one day she just jumped on me and we started making out.

The weird thing about the last one is that she has never cheated on any boyfriend she ever had. I've given her ultimatums (him or me) and some how every time she can't break up with him and we stay in the same weird relationship. Her friends and family are starting to suspect us and its just getting worse. I really am at a total loss at what to do here. Just leaving doesn't seem to work, in everything I've read I have never heard of anything like this.

I'm no amateur when it comes to girls, I've had my share of girlfriends and no how to handle a situation. So guys, what do you think? I really do care for her and I know (don't ask me to explain) that she loves me too.

Dude,

Perhaps she loves you. . . Hey, ONLY SHE knows this. Period. No matter what she tells you or how she acts or whatever . . . ONLY SHE knows her heart . . . period.

What is obvious however, is that she still loves her boyfriend. You can justify her actions anyway you like but in the end, if she loved you more than she did her boyfriend, you wouldn't have had the reason to write your post.

So let's just bring it down to what you can control because only SHE can choose. Basically, you can stay in this weird ass relationship and get bootie anytime you'd like from a girl who's involved and knows it and I'll tell you what, she probably likes it. . .

Or you can call it quits.

You already gave her the ultimatum. Do you think asking her 3 times or 10 times will make any difference?