Ok, so basically, I met this girl at a charaoke bar, and her friend told me that HB8,5 thought I was hot.
I number closed her and I now have her facebook and found out that she has a BF. I sent her a message on facebook that went something like this:
- Wow, that girl in your picture is beautiful, do you think you could hook me up?

and then she sent me a friend request, but never responded to my message.

Her status on facebook is btw: "I miss you (BFs name)" which might indicate that he is somewhere else or something.

So my question is: Is this a lost cause? And is there a way of telling her that she needs to get over herself and that im not interested in her in that way (tho I am) in other words than that?
Basically: WTF should I do?

She still hasnt replied, but I just came up with something that I might send.
Its a kind of message that will leave the ball in her court, and if she never replies to this one, im done with her.

"Thought you were a fun gal:/

Ok, so u wanted to show me u have a BF. Why would I care? I just thought you were fun to be around and thats why I asked for ur number. Nothing to worry about. Why did u give me ur number if u didnt feel the same way? Anyways, Im going out saturday night, and if u want to have fun, you should send me a message."

Someone plz respond in some way.

Are there seriously noone on this forum who are able to reply to my posts?

I made up my mind to just give up, (but leave her a small opening if she decides to change her mind) and wrote this to her:

"I see uve got a BF, and thats probably for the best. We're not a good match anyway, I need a girl whos able to use a keyboard:D

If u want to add me on msn, so we could be friends, go ahead,(i let her having to find it herself on my profile) if not:

Have a nice life, and have fun as long as u live! Remember, you only get 1 life:)"

Any feedback?

Sorry . . . kind of late . . .

Why did you feel that you needed to bring up her boyfriend in the first place? Oh . . . you want to be her boyfriend? Ooh . . you want to kiss her and have sex with her is that it?

The goal is NOT the strategy. Repeat this 10 times!

Yeah, yeah . . . you're a guy so you want to fuck her. Now think, "what is the best strategy?" Well, DO NOT bring up her boyfriend and make her sound like some two timing whore. Second, make YOURSELF shine by contacting her for FUN activities.

I mean, where the hell did you even pick up that gay ass, "Long as you live" crap? Dude, if I was your buddy and I was next to you when you texted her, I would have slapped you silly.

You probably already made yourself seem like a creepy stalking, Hallmark Holiday Cards plagiarizing AFC to her. So this could be done already. Sorry if I sound harsh but my God . . . I can't think of anything worse you could have done. So . . . damage control . . .

Give her a few days to forget about this little episode. Right now, she's feeling great that she elevated her value by reducing a guy to go all Hallmark on her. Meanwhile, think about some fun things she couldn't possibly pass up.

Then you call . . . forget the text. CALL HER. Simply start with, "Hey, there's this great _______ you want to go?" You have to call so that she can hear the FUN in your voice and not some creepy guy who's like, "OOOh . . .I want to be you're boyfriend and make sexy time with you hur, hur, hur . . . but you have boyfriend I see . . ."

That's not who you are. This is who you are: "Hey! I've been meaning to check out this ______ bar/cafe/restaurant. I hear it's great. You want to go?!"

If she doesn't respond. You're done. . . But you have to figure, you set yourself up here.

Just remember the next time, with the next girl, stop thinking about her pussy and work on your game. Go one step at a time. DO NOT ask for friendship, boyfriendship, or sex. DO NOT ask for permission. DO NOT ask for anything. Instead, offer her FUN. Offer her EXCITEMENT. Offer her a mystery she can't crack. Offer her things she can't resist.



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please please please tell me you did not send any of those messages to her. be patient, sometimes it takes a bit for people to respond. besides, the longer you take to write or respond to her, the better.

ok, i agree with pretty much everything kasabi said. Except i would not ask her to go some place, i would tell her where i am going and say she should meet me there.....

example: "Im going to the mall tomorrow at 2. You should meet me at Express so I can give you some fashion tips "

You don't need to bring up the BF one bit. She didn't put the shit up about her BF specifically for you. She did it for her BF. You showed that you are jealous needy and insecure. Next time play like the BF doesn't even exist.

If she even sends you a message back, play it cool. Honestly, its time to move on.


EDIT: When you were told she thought you were cute, she could have just been looking for that male attention that she is missing since her BF is outta town. It doesnt necessarily mean anything.

Good luck bro,

CK

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good stuff kasabi and chino.

and chino....I'm going to the mall tomorrow at 2....you should meet me there so i can give you some fashion tips

first read the msges above me, those msgs you want to send are rediculous.

basically you want her because she wants you(nothing wrong with that but), thats not a good message to send out. firstly find out more about her, let her qualify herself. you give your power away to her to be the price, while you should be. she likes you right? let her work for you and not the other way around

Thanks guys, I should definately work on my phone game.

Next time, I will:

- Play it cool
- Leave more of an impression so that she will be chasing me, instead of the other way around.
- Call, instead of text
- And when I decide to call, only call once
- IM THE PRIZE!
- Let her work!
- Never ask about her BF

Oh, and next time, please step in before its too late!