Now, I don't necessarily have to peacock when I'm going out, right? Because, I really don't feel like doing it. From what I have read, it's more like peacock-theory, meaning, that I suppose you could get by without it. Even though having one special item may help, such as a nice watch you are wearing, or a necklace, etc. Anyway, I made this topic, because I was wondering if the guys who have been doing this for a while, could share where they first started? What was your first opener, your first gaming public gathering? I think this could be beneficial to new guys like myself, who are interested in getting into the game.

Also, I have another question. When starting out, do you start by just practicing each phase? For example, only practice A1 for a while? Then when you get comfortable, you move into A2?

Another fear that I have, is some girl saying to me "Are you trying to pick me up? You sound like one of those guys on that VH1 show." Even though I already made a topic regarding this kinda of situation, it makes it a little tough for me to actually go out there and get started.

If people could give me some good openers to actually use, and I'm not talking about old openers that have been used too much to be easily recognized, then I might actually try them.

Also, what are the guide lines for making a good opener?

If anyone could help me with these questions, I think not only would it be beneficial to me, but a lot of new guys could benefit from this too. Thanks.

what up curious,

Im no pro and i can't really give a history on when i actively became engaged in what is often referred to as 'the game' - I've always been decent with women, but after i broke up with my long term gf I decided i needed to get out. I read the game, saw some success in my life, but then let work override any long term dedication to the PUCommunity. Recently however, i have changed my life plan and have been focusing quite heavily on refining my PUSkills. I'm seeing tremendous success. Without exaggerating in the last month I have met women randomly, hooked up with a sexy chick while on vacation, been on a many dates (lots were just simple lunches, my definition of 'date' is pretty loose) and just generally increased my PUConfidence dramatically.

If you want a very simple benign opener, just go up to a girl and ask for directions to somewhere - ideally somewhere you already know that you are close to. Try to turn it into a conversation. If she doesnt seem absolutely sure, tell her you dont trust her. Ask her if she is lying to you. If she is going that way, ask if you can accompany her because you arent great with directions. A buddy here in Vancouver,RIften i think, introduced me to this 'benign method' because my cold approaches sucked. Within the first hour I had gotten this korean chicks number - he can confirm that, though he doesnt seem to post much.

Once you try this, you will get such a rush from just talking to strangers that you will be motivated to try it in different ways. I am 1000x more social than i was 1 month ago. I talk to EVERYONE now.. and, i was going to write a separate post on this, i still will, but taking Style's advice in one of his 'annihilation method' videos I asked this girl, who i call SC on this forum, "when was the first time you felt attracted to me" [note this is asked after a successful open etc, i slept with her and asked her two weeks later by phone] and she said
1. when i first saw you in your aviators (note, positive feedback on Ray Ban Aviators.. nice)
2. And she went further, she said, "i loved how you just talked to anyone / everyone. You're just so social and I find that super hot" - or something to this extent..

Anyway, give it a go man. Then come back and write about your experience.

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Peacocking is good, but yeah it isn't necessary. I have a necklace which I bought because I liked it. Once or twice girl I talked to has grabbed it and commented. Hats are good because girls love to try them on (this is one I'm gonna try next weekend).

If a girl asks if you're picking her up, you have multiple options. Say yes, joke about it and look her up and down, estimate her weight and say yeah I could pick you up lol. But don't be ashamed of showing interest in her.

totally agree with this.

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